Covonia Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 I was at a rock club on monday evening and I got chatting to people all night long, it had a really good atmosphere and it was a nice place, I met this girl who seemed quite nice and we got chatting, it was going well until we talked about music, she asked me what artists I like, so I list them, My Chemical Romance, Thrice, Eighteen Visions, Joy Division, Placebo, Paramore, The Smiths, Funeral For A Friend, and the usual emocore stuff. She had this strange look on her face, she then told me she'd be back in about a minute and didn't return for a while and when she came back, she said she had to go and just left. I thought this was weird, but I guess this chick didn't dig "emo" music. Has anyone else had this happen to them. I've been turned down for being "ugly" before, but never over my music taste.
Lovegod Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Emocore? WTF is that? For me, music can be a huge dealbraker. If she likes country music and Celine Dion, then I'll be having none of that.
Author Covonia Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 emotive hardcore - You can search the definition on the internet, it's basically this decade's in thing , like how the 90's saw the Grunge revolution. Music is a deal breaker for me at all, but she was clearly into a different genre of music to me altogether, I wasn't upset or annoyed about it, it was surreal at first, but I found quite amusing after I had left the club.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Is it possible that she had just never heard of those bands and didn't know what to reply? I have had conversations with people when they mention music they like and I've never heard any of it, I just sort of zone out if there is no chance to see what it sounds like while we are talking. I think that people do take music taste into consideration. I won't rule out dating someone because of music tastes, but if they say they like a type of music that I don't then it definitely goes into the 'probably not' file. Just out of curiosity, did she get a chance to say what sort of music she liked before she jetted on you?
MoonlightLover Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Haha, dear me...i think you're quite lucky you didn't end up with someone as narrow minded as that!!!
Author Covonia Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 Just out of curiosity, did she get a chance to say what sort of music she liked before she jetted on you? I think she was into bands such as Offspring and Blink 182, you know the bands that 12 years old listen to. And no she wasn't 12, she was 20.
Author Covonia Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 (edited) Haha, dear me...i think you're quite lucky you didn't end up with someone as narrow minded as that!!! I know, I bet she didn't even like 24 hour party people either. Edited March 26, 2008 by Covonia
blind_otter Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Oh I like to be around people who have different taste in music. I am very open about music, I really love all kinds. My SO loves old-timey music, stuff I never listened to before in my life. Sometimes I like it, sometimes I hate it, but I'll listen to just about everything. Even country music. I can't think of a genre of music that I really don't like, or can't find at least something to like about it. So no, musical taste doesn't effect me.
tanbark813 Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 emotive hardcore - You can search the definition on the internet, it's basically this decade's in thing , like how the 90's saw the Grunge revolution. Except that grunge was cool and emo is just a bunch of whiny kids with messy hair. I wouldn't turn down a girl for musical taste. I've dated girls who were into country before. I just may have to grit my teeth from time to time.
sedgwick Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Well, I was dumped by the guy I loved more than I've ever loved anyone in my life because he's a musician and I'm not. We were together for a year, and then he woke up one morning and told me he felt that the love of his life was an old-time fiddle player and he had to go find her. I am a music-obsessed bellydancer, but that was not close enough. I was left because I didn't play a specific instrument in a specific genre. I might mention that I am from the South and grew up square dancing, and I LOVE old-time and bluegrass music. When I met this guy, I told him I was so happy to have someone who wouldn't make fun of me for the music I liked. Nope, he didn't make fun of me, he just left me because I didn't PLAY it. I have never been so brokenhearted.
Author Covonia Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 Except that grunge was cool and emo is just a bunch of whiny kids with messy hair. I wouldn't turn down a girl for musical taste. I've dated girls who were into country before. I just may have to grit my teeth from time to time. I love Smashing Pumpkins and went through a phase of wearing similar clothes to Kurt Cobain, but then I was ridiculed at school for being a tramp, so I scrapped that and the whole post grunge scene and went for something cutting edge, an emo fringe, skinny jeans and tight t-shirts.
sedgwick Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Incidentally, I haven't the foggiest what the word "emocore" means, and would no doubt laugh out loud if I heard someone use it in a sentence, but I do love me some Smiths and Joy Division (have you seen "Control?" Effin' brilliant film, even if I do have issues with the cinematography.) And I loved those bands back in the '80s when we didn't even have the word "emo" yet, imagine that!
Author Covonia Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 Emo's origins started in the eighties, like Grunge it was very much an underground form of expression, that later went through several changes and then eventually became mainstream like Grunge did before it. Most 'Emo' bands got their inspiration from The Smiths, The Cure and other eighties bands. Panic At the Disco, My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, Paramore and countless other's. Most people associate emocore with depression and it generally carries negative connotation's, so I guess some people aren't prepared to look past that like that girl in question.
MoonlightLover Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 I love Smashing Pumpkins and went through a phase of wearing similar clothes to Kurt Cobain, but then I was ridiculed at school for being a tramp, so I scrapped that and the whole post grunge scene and went for something cutting edge, an emo fringe, skinny jeans and tight t-shirts. I love Smashing Pumpkins too, but nobody would accompany me to their gig in Feb...gutted...
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 I love Smashing Pumpkins too, but nobody would accompany me to their gig in Feb...gutted... I had a similar thing with the movie Control (the Joy Division biopic). It played in ONE theater on my side of the state in a limited release one weekend only, and the weekend I was in that city the guy I was with had no interest in seeing it and would not entertain even the notion of seeing it. I was staying with him, and didn't have my car so I didn't even get to go see it on my own. So... I have to wait til June when it comes out on DVD. Our musical tastes clashed anyway. He was into really crazy death metal stuff, and I fall more into the 80's category.
HouseOfCards Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Maybe she heard you say you listen to The Smiths and thought you might be gay . I kid, I love that band too. Just, you know, they're not the most alpha-male band ever. Honestly, I'm a bit of a music fanatic, but I would never turn down a girl just because she didn't listen to all my favorite bands. With that being said, meeting a girl who reveals herself to be a die-hard Nickelback fan is probably the 2nd-biggest dealbreaker for me, just behind "I have a penis."
Woggle Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 My taste in music is so diverse that most people won't like all of it but my wife and I generally like the same stuff for the most part. As long as she isn't into modern day country or manufactured pop like Pussycat Dolls and Dannity Kane I can listen to it with her. As for Emo The Smiths and The Cure were great bands but groups like My Chemical Romance get on my nerves.
Author Covonia Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 Control is an epic from what my friend was telling me, I haven't seen it. My ex-girlfriend loved the same type of music as me, in fact for all her faults, she did educate me alot on music, so for that I'm grateful.
MoonlightLover Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 I had a similar thing with the movie Control (the Joy Division biopic). It played in ONE theater on my side of the state in a limited release one weekend only, and the weekend I was in that city the guy I was with had no interest in seeing it and would not entertain even the notion of seeing it. I was staying with him, and didn't have my car so I didn't even get to go see it on my own. So... I have to wait til June when it comes out on DVD. Our musical tastes clashed anyway. He was into really crazy death metal stuff, and I fall more into the 80's category. Aww, crap isn't it...relationships and friendships are supposed to be all about give and take. Its sods law when these rare chances come around and someone else ruins it for you because they won't give a litte. Rubbiiiish. I'll have to throw my underwear at them another day....(joking...i pay too much for it)
Starry-eyed Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Incidentally, I haven't the foggiest what the word "emocore" means, and would no doubt laugh out loud if I heard someone use it in a sentence, but I do love me some Smiths and Joy Division (have you seen "Control?" Effin' brilliant film, even if I do have issues with the cinematography.) And I loved those bands back in the '80s when we didn't even have the word "emo" yet, imagine that! Morrissey's lyrics got me through many years! Boy, did I identify with so much of his thoughts and feelings. Now, though, I can hardly bear to listen to them because it's so melodramatic and self-hating. But I'll always love Suffer The Children and The Hand That Rocks The Cradle as two of my fave songs with great guitar work. I want to see "Control." Is out on DVD?
Author Covonia Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 Maybe she heard you say you listen to The Smiths and thought you might be gay . I kid, I love that band too. Just, you know, they're not the most alpha-male band ever. Honestly, I'm a bit of a music fanatic, but I would never turn down a girl just because she didn't listen to all my favorite bands. With that being said, meeting a girl who reveals herself to be a die-hard Nickelback fan is probably the 2nd-biggest dealbreaker for me, just behind "I have a penis." Well I am just as feminine as I am masculine, so being the most hetrosexual male around doesn't bother me. I quite like being a gay-straight guy as one girl called me, then again she only said that because I spent 40 minutes doing my hair and she spent 10 minutes doing her's lol. I see what you mean though.
Lovegod Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 As for Emo The Smiths and The Cure were great bands but groups like My Chemical Romance get on my nerves. You know, I grew up in the 80s, and I can't for the life of me remember a music genre called "Emo", nor did I know that The Cure was part of this genre I never heard of. Either I'm losing my memory, or history has been re-written.
Woggle Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 The Cure and The Smiths were actually considered alternative in their time. To me emo is whiny guys like Dashboard Confessional who make wimpy guy anthems. Robert Smith might have had a feminine style but his music did not sound wimpy like Dashboard Confessional and My Chemical Romance.
HouseOfCards Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 You know, I grew up in the 80s, and I can't for the life of me remember a music genre called "Emo", nor did I know that The Cure was part of this genre I never heard of. Either I'm losing my memory, or history has been re-written. History was re-written. Basically, the word "emo" started getting thrown around in the 80's to describe an obscure subgenre of punk rock where singers tended to sing about their feelings more than the usual political lyrics that were big at the time. This word got picked up and snowballed, and now any band/singer that is somewhat whiny/feminine/emotional gets labeled "emo". Also, the word gets thrown around a lot these days to describe a type of fashion, but that's another thread altogether.
Lovegod Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 and now any band/singer that is somewhat whiny/feminine/emotional gets labeled "emo". Ah, you mean like that James Blunt crap?
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