mishy Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Look I can relate to you. I can hardly bare to read your posts because its excruciating to see how this guy has been treating you. i just want to say that i recently dumped a guy even worse than this, after 5 months of the merry go round. I know how you feel, and even after this hiccup with the accidental text, he WILL come around until he finds another booty call. but the fact is - that you DO have feelings for this guy, and i can only see this ending really badly. He is never going to want you as a proper girlfriend but this is more to do with his inadequacies than yours. Just believe me when i say I HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE. Save yourself another few agonising and confusing months and jump ship. Its never going to get better with a guy like this.
Chinook Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 You're being played. You deserve better. In your first few posts, your guts were exactly right about the situation - if you read back, the more contact you have had with him, the more it had altered your views and coloured your responses. Firstly, I'd think about what YOU actually want. Not from him but for yourself. Then think about what kind of person he is and how he's treated you. Then ask yourself, does he actually have the qualities it takes to fulfill even some of what you need...? My guess is no. You deserve much better and you deserve respect. NC is hard. Damn hard. I wrote a post about it a long time ago describing it exactly... but even that didn't describe the difficulty. But it gets better. Hang in there, hang in there for yourself and your future.
Author Sfbaygirl415 Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 I already put my foot down with him and told him FWB wasn't acceptable, that's why we're back to NC. Anyhow, I just thought the ecard would be a nice guesture being that it is his birthday and all. It's not an ecard with any intentions or expectations of anything else.. honestly. I do see him in a new light now.. and I know he's been online portraying himself as a wonderful man again looking for a single mother. I do see that the problems lie with with not me.. he's the one who has commitment issues and more (I've been reading the book Men Who Can't Love). I guess there's a super super small tiny little piece of me who has a slight bit of hope that maybe one day he'll turn around and come back to me as a different person(that would take a miracle). Until then.. I'm staying strong and am taking care of me. All the stress from this has literally made me intensly sick and it's made me realize again that I need to take care of myself. Thanks everyone for listening. I don't know how I would've gotten through all this without you!!
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