mas21 Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 so the ex i broke up with when i decided to go to college outta state and was hurt by me. Now he is just mean. I have been trying to get together with him or at least pick his brain to see what is going on. He will reply to me every once and a while and ignore the hanging out messages, anyhow posted before about it. We dated for 3-4 years while i was in hs and hes 5 years older than me. Probably at the time the nicest guy ever. Ya so i sent him one saying "so you dont want to talk anymore". I got a reply that said "anymore, we have barely talked for the last 3 years". He is just mean now, im only trying to be nice and he just hates me now. That statement was completely wrong before we do communicate during those 3 years just not as much as earlier bc i was obviously in college in chicago, working and busy. Why would he decide to be mean? instead just ignore me if he wants nothing to do with me
carhill Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Breaking up kinda means not talking anymore. What if he was busy with work and school and you felt he put them in front of you, and then he left to go to school? How would you feel? Empathy is a learned behavior. I wish you well BTW, hell hath no fury like a PO'd nice guy. Watch out. When I was his age, boy, the things I did for revenge
Author mas21 Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 haha great, now i have to be scared to see him out ever. haha yes we had a different kind of break up, one where i considered him my best friend still and went ot him for other guy advice. Which looking back wasnt the best idea considering that probably hurt him badly. Btw i am empathetic! i guess when people get too close i push them away and regret later, took me longer to mature in that relational aspect... oh well, he has been deleted from my phone because he obviously hates me
Uchiha Sasuke Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 No kidding. You still want to keep the guy hanging on while you obviously have a different view on the relationship. He has every right to hate you. You've both spent a lot of time investing in each other. Did you realize how important sex was to him? Having that closeness and then talking about your "guy problems" to him? Who wouldn't feel insulted. I'm assuming you broke up with him, no? We you say "we" it usually means "you". So in college did you find another guy? Do yourself a favor and enjoy your life without him. He's trying to do the same. Don't get your ego involved.
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