ClctveUnConscius Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 I'm not sure if this is the right spot for this but I didnt know where else to post it. So there is this girl in my sociology class that I am very interested in. I sat next to her a few weeks ago and we have been chatting it up since, she laughs every now and then and we can keep a conversation going pretty easily. Through our conversations I have a general idea of what her personality is and what she likes / dislikes and I also know she doesnt have a boyfriend right now. So today after class was over I finally asked her for her number so we could just hangout sometime, and get to know each other better. Well it went wrong as soon as I asked her, she was very hesitant and said "yah maybe" in the tone that you know means NO when someone says how she did, and then she said she would think about it, I guess maybe to ease the blow, and said "OK talk to you thursday". When she hesitated I sensed that her heart kinda jumped and she seemed like she was almost scared all of a sudden and she even quickened her step and was talking faster than usual too. To me this was a very clear message that she has a fearful attachment style (I'm in a interpersonal communication class right now) and she isnt interested at all. This really bummed me out, she didnt even give me a chance just shot me down on the spot. I dont understand as soon as I bring up the subject of us hanging out she seemed freaked out. I feel like I screwed something up.
Author ClctveUnConscius Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 Well even though I answered my own question because I was quite sure it was a polite NO I still wasnt sure and needed some confirmation. This post was a perfect example http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t146691/ answered all my questions. Thanks Now I just need to move on and find another, ugh thats the part I hate, its so hard for me to find a girl I like.... Heres to another 6 months of being lonely. Cheers society
carhill Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Oh, to be young again when 6 months was an eternity Hey, try asking someone you don't like for their number. Maybe your instincts are all wrong
Lovegod Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Heres to another 6 months of being lonely. What the kind of attitude is that? Let's say you got canned from your job. You go on an interview and get turned down. Do you sit and cry for months because some dink in a suit doesn't want you working for him? NO. You go out and find more jobs to apply at, and get more interviews. The same goes for dating women. If one turns you down, you don't sit down and cry for the rest of your life. You go ask another woman out. Keep doing it until you're successful. Also, quit investing your emotions in women you're not dating.
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