shanemike88 Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Ok here it goes my ex and i broke up in August of 07 we had our fair share of ups and downs like a typical young couple. I started dating her when i was 16 she was 18 (im now 20 shes turning 22 in june) we were best friends for about a year before we even started dating. Anyway when we decided to split in August we didnt know if it was for real as i think most ppl when they orginally split its all new and confusing i wanted space just to clear my head and she would say i dont want u outta my life i stayed strong for the 1st month of the breakup but it went down hill fast, It was pretty serious we almost moved out together and we were even talking about marriage through most of our relationship. Through the first 2 months of our break-up we continued to talk and she would always tell me that she wanted me back so bad but she couldnt i never understood that, i was willing to work things out but i guess she wasnt. My friends all told me that she was gonna hold onto me until she found somebody well i didnt believe them bc i thought i knew this girl.So Late October we stopped talking for about 2 weeks and i was going through a real hard time with school, her, everything i needed her to say the least (or i thought i did) so i decided to call her and she was in Pitt with a guy and i asked if she was seeing him she said no hes just a friend but i knew different. Mid November rolled around and we were talking and they were now dating he was moving to where we live in Delaware bc he had gotten a job here hes 25. I was crushed i couldnt believe 3 years was thrown out in 3 months. We still talked until he fully moved here around xmas and then once she did she cut me off. Worst part about it is that she works with my mom and we have the same mutual friends so i couldnt get away from it sometimes i still cant i didnt wanna fill a void with a new GF bc i knew it woulda been fake and i cant hurt somebody like that. We talked for about the 1st month they were 2gether and one time we talked and she said that she wished i was laying next to her in bed rather than him it messed with my head everytime i talked to her so i decided to stop talking to her, so we stopped talking for about a month and half then we talked again she moved out with him i couldnt believe it she met this guy in october then moved out with him and i guess bc i liked getting kicked in the teeth so much i asked if they were saying i love you and she said yes that they were, needless to say i was hurt,shocked, mad all in one soo after that i didnt really have anything to say i didnt wanna show her i was hurt to i played that O ok im happy for you thing. I guess the only thing im saying is that i dont get how 2 ppl can be "in love" but move on so quick. The majority of our friends think it wont last or its just a "rebound". I was actually invited to a party next month where her and her bf will be at i told the girl whos having the party that i def gotta think about it and my ex again texted me about this event but this time her bf was in North Carolina so she could talk to me bc she didnt have anything better to do we talked for the majority of the day and part of the night she doesnt tell him that we have talked or i guess talk still bc she thinks she isnt doing anything wrong by talking to me to quote her she said its not like im trying to get you back. I just wanna know everybodys thoughts and to hear u all call me a STUPID! lol.
Ofleg7 Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 That sucks man. Though I don't think you've done anything stupid. You should probably stop finding out what they're getting up to and try to cut down contact with her, not saying you should ignore her but otherwise it's going to be harder to deal with. It's a tough one because she obviously still has feelings for you to say something like that (about laying next to her) but at the same time it must be serious with this new guy for them to move in together. As for the party... don't let the situation affect your social life..although if you feel like it would be too awkward, or you couldnt handle seeing them together don't. If you do go you gotta be cool.. say hello.. but i wouldnt get involved in a conversation with either of them. sorry, my advice isn't brilliant and hope things go ok for you
Author shanemike88 Posted March 27, 2008 Author Posted March 27, 2008 Yeah thanks man ive had alot of help or advice from friends and family. I guess its safe to say you never really know what normal is but its been almost 7 months and i still dont totally feel myself i mean i can go out and enjoy myself but im still adjusting especially when all of my friends make comments like i dont see it lasting or its just a rebound (which i dont think or believe it is). The funny thing about this is that a few years ago b4 we started dating i was about to get into a relationship with a girl and i bailed bc she had told me how she felt but once i bailed on the girl a few weeks later she started to date some guy it lasted 3 months and i completly cut her off during that time then oddly enough they broke up and we started dating and im kinda afraid that will happen again the uncertainty of completly having her outta my life bugs me bc she was so close to me at one point but thats something ill have to deal with if or when that time comes. I also look at like do ppl really change in 3 months or less, or adapt to somebody new after they been with somebody for so long? I know i am still trying to change and handle things better.
sedgwick Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 Yikes! I tried to read this...really I did...but there needs to be some punctuation in there somewhere!! Periods and commas help a lot, as does spelling words out -- "u" instead of "you" and "ppl" instead of "people" might work well for text messaging, but not so well when you want us to read a whole story!
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