Author freckles3131 Posted March 28, 2008 Author Posted March 28, 2008 Thank you Spoon. It's nice to hear from someone who "gets" where I'm coming from. Thanks for putting time into that reply, it helped immensely. Yes, I've decided to not check on him anymore/ever. I believe in my hearts of hearts that he won't cheat. Flirt maybe...but that's ok. I think it was most likely a "fear of reaction" situation. I'm Irish/Italian and that makes for a firey mix at times. He is so good to me, loving, shows his affection....doesn't just "talk the talk" he "walks the walk" which according to Carhill is a big indicator. Actions speak louder than words...and I'm going by his actions. He is a good man, not a big partyer, works hard, intelligent and thinks highly of me. I'm going to focus on that and not open pandora's box again and just TRUST he will tell me things from here on out. I KNOW I need to react with grace as that is what will enable him to be more open and honest and not fearful. Thanks again for all of your help to Spoons, Carhill et. all...
bethann Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 ok, I am in the middle of my text message spyathon turned to breakup. Keep your eyes open! and trust your gut! When i found my bfs messages to his ex, i was furious. But my gut told me "Oh Oh, T R O U B L E" I confronted him and we talked, he assured me that there was nothing to worry about,and all that. WRONG, there was plenty to worry about, he continued to call her and tex her behind my back and I found out and moved out immediatley. and guess who he is with now? HIS EX!! Trust YOURSELF, you know him and you know you. Jelous or not, if your gut is telling you something believe it. But please, keep your eyes open. You can check his cell phone usage on line to ya know. My bf deleted the texes after i confronted him on the first bunch, i found out about the calls and texes on line. As much as this hurts, there is no way in hell I am going to be some doormat for him. As much as I love him, he obviously doenst love me. It is painfully, very very obvious to everyone and now me that it was her who he loved all along. HE never got over her and when he got the chance to run, he ran like a ****ing white tailed deer back to her. I get that he just 'met' this girl, but he said she was interesting, that is HUGE. SHe has his interest. Watch and trust your gut,I did and I moved out the first chance I could.
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