superfox Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Hi Everyone, I have been dating this guy recently and he wants something more serious. At the same time he says things like "I don't want to hurt you", "If it doesn't work out I don't want you to be hurt", "I'm a bad guy I'm kind of messed up you know and I don't want to hurt you". I have never really experienced these things, I don't know what he means. I guess my assumption is he is saying that he doesn't believe it will work out so he is giving me a heads up? But I never pursued him he pursued me, I have been playing hard to get the entire time and being very evasive.
Legend Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 stop.......playing...........games............ he's saying he wants u as his toy and when he's done he's done, dont be hurt by it, but that's the nature of it so it's kind of retarded imo.
Meg4131 Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Run away. Quickly. This guy is serious trouble. He's warning you about HIMSELF, which is never a good sign. So, take his advice and walk away.
Advocate's Devilette Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 I agree with Meg. Why be in a relationship with a guy who tells you upfront that he's messed up and could very easily hurt you?
Author superfox Posted March 25, 2008 Author Posted March 25, 2008 yes i know your probably right, it is so hard because he is so nice but then says these odd things...and i dont want to get hurt but it is almost like he is telling me or warning me that i might by saying "i dont want to hurt you"
mistieyed Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Run away. Quickly. This guy is serious trouble. He's warning you about HIMSELF, which is never a good sign. So, take his advice and walk away. i agree whole heartedly with this poster. he is warning you about himself without so many words. good luck.
Author superfox Posted March 27, 2008 Author Posted March 27, 2008 Okay you all were totally right. He just wants to have his cake and eat it too. He said that he doesn't want to hurt me in the future so he is so confused because he is so messed up. He said that he was interested in being with me but that I should keep my communication open with other guys because what if it didn't work out between "us". I just told him I am not interested, and don't play head games with people. Do you guys think it would be okay to keep a friendship? or would that be unfair?
Advocate's Devilette Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 I think it would be best if you cut off all contact with him, at least for a couple months. Staying in contact might give you hope and keep you hanging on emotionally to him.
AriaIncognito Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 Do you guys think it would be okay to keep a friendship? or would that be unfair? Why would you want to? What's so good about this guy? Nothing you've posted about him would seem to give cause to allow him to stay in your life in any form.
Author superfox Posted March 27, 2008 Author Posted March 27, 2008 When we do spend time together he is very nice, and caring, but then so confused when speaking about relationships. Like he says he has a very bad past, and has done horrible things, and that he is a bad guy and so messed up. I am not fully sure of what the past involved. I guess maybe he is just bad news, even if he has that nice aspect.
Meg4131 Posted March 27, 2008 Posted March 27, 2008 This man sounds extremely volatile. Please, for your sake and your future happiness, stay away from him. If he says he has done "horrible things" this is a HUGE RED FLAG the size of Texas and its letting you know that you need to move on. There's someone much better out there for you.
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