Yikes24 Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Hey guys and gals, I have just begun dating a nice girl for a week or so now. Things were going well until today, then it got a little bit weird. We recently had our first kiss... Which eventually turned into a bit of a make out session (haha). But today was our third date, so I arranged a movie and meal type deal. I knew things were a bit off when I met her and she didn't seem open to being kissed. Kinda strange to go from hot and heavy to nothing at all. But OK, I'm not into forcing myself onto someone so I let it slide. She seemed to warm up as the day went on. No kissing. But holding hands and cuddling in the movie etc. All good. But after the movie she seemed distracted and well, just kinda moody. We went to get lunch, but then she 'wasn't hungry'. So instead I had a sandwhich and she grabbed some drinks and we sat outside. But then she was 'too hot' from the sun. Annoying. So we went to grab the bus home. While waiting for the bus I went to put my arms around her and she kinda pushed me away. I asked her what was up and she said 'nothing'. Not good. So I backed off for a bit. At that point I really didn't feel like talking. I'm not that much of a talker anyway. But I guess she wasn't OK with the silence. At which point she decided to talk about everything we drove by. From the signage on the store windows to repeating questions she had already asked me on previous dates. Weird. At the end of the date we went our seperate ways. But she gave me a hug, thanked me for the movie and said she would see me 'later' or 'next time' (can't remember exactly what she said). But now I'm just confused. She goes from one thing to another. Hot and heavy to nothing? Distant to wanting to see me later? She has always been nervous, talkative and unsettled around me. But I just put that down to date jitters. I thought they would go away after some time and the physical barrier was crossed. But they came back with a vengence today! Could someone please shed some light on my situation? It would be greatly appreciated!
Blue Eyed Brain Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Don't know this type of personality very well, but I worked with a woman that was similar in personality. The behavior tends to reflect low or bad self esteem. She is very unsure of herself and hence, you and the potential relationship. She lacks the confidence to discuss any issues with you because she sees every issue as a major issue. I wouldn't put too much time into her. Find someone more together - she's too high maintenance.
Balthazar Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 she may be on meds or have bi polar disorder, who knows? All you need to know is that she is best left alone. Find someone sane and healthy. Cheers,
D-Lish Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 If you go to put your arm around someone and they physically push you away... that's not a good sign. I don't think this has anything to do with you. In fact, I think it's something wrong with her. People are usually on their best behaviour in the first month or two of getting to know one another- if she's manifesting moody, hot/cold behaviour on a third date.... I'd call that a giant red flag. If nothing else- wait for her to initiate any contact and let her be the one to suggest another date. If she doesn't reach out- let it go!
AussieJack Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 If you go to put your arm around someone and they physically push you away... that's not a good sign. ! Not a good sign indeed - it is the only sign that I would need to do a 180 on the spot.
CD111 Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 Weird for her to turn on you like that in the middle of a date. Also weird was her inability to just not talk at all. Like she just couldn't handle the silence. If I was you I wouldn't give that chick another though and just be glad you don't have to deal with her again. Who knows maybe she forgot to take her meds? Seriously...and not
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