loveralone Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 So, not only do I have to deal with the heartbreak of losing my first love, but I just figured out that one of my "good friends" is now SLEEPING WITH HIM!!!!! Who does that?! I am SOOOO ANGRY!!!!
AdrianaLima Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 That is so F'ed up. I would be beyond angry. But don't consider doing anything crazy, it isn't worth it.
Belkin Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Same here She dumped me for a guy I had a small friendship with... Now they sleep together every night and I get to bump into them in the morning when they walk to campus hand in hand... Do all you can to ignore them, it's the best solution. Apparently it gets better over time, so they say!
Author loveralone Posted March 25, 2008 Author Posted March 25, 2008 We had it out last night. It's really bad. She sent me a text message while I was on the phone with him....I sent one back and said I don't have anything nice to say to her at this point, and i asked her to never talk to me again. She tried to play stupid (even after I told her I had already talked to him!) The funny thing is, he always talked so much s**t about this girl while we were dating! He said she would never find a man because she is so desperate and needy....which I reminded him of last night. Oh, this is just horrible. I hate that I still care about this man!!! He told me that I was creating this "drama" to get attention. He told me I've become the "laughing stock and joke" to our circle of "friends", that I'm "psychotic"....and then turned around and f-ing told me he "still cares about me"! WHO DOES THAT?! I just want this all to go away....
Belkin Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Stop it, you're only hurting yourself here. You can't talk to them, there's nothing to be said. Whatever you say or do will be interpreted as desperation. Neither one of them really cares for you anymore, obviously they wouldn't be together if they did. Life's unfair, and for now you're the unlucky one, and they're having a great time together. I know, it sucks, but it will get better for you some time in the future. You must ignore them, and that means AVOID all contact whatsoever with them. Believe me, you don't want to see them kissing or cuddling, that hurts just sooooo much. If they try to talk to you, POLITELY tell them you're not ready to talk with them, because it hurts you too much for now. If they're intelligent beings, they'll understand and leave you alone (which is unfortunately the best you can have right now.) It's all about YOU now. The sooner you realize that, the better. Do all you can to get YOURSELF better, without involving any one of them. You're not aiming for revenge, you are not aiming for him to come back to you, you are aiming for yourself to heal and learn to live without him again as you did before for so long. Whatever they do is now none of your business, and finding out about them can't bring anything good to you.
Author loveralone Posted March 25, 2008 Author Posted March 25, 2008 Stop it, you're only hurting yourself here. You can't talk to them, there's nothing to be said. Whatever you say or do will be interpreted as desperation. Neither one of them really cares for you anymore, obviously they wouldn't be together if they did. Life's unfair, and for now you're the unlucky one, and they're having a great time together. I know, it sucks, but it will get better for you some time in the future. You must ignore them, and that means AVOID all contact whatsoever with them. Believe me, you don't want to see them kissing or cuddling, that hurts just sooooo much. If they try to talk to you, POLITELY tell them you're not ready to talk with them, because it hurts you too much for now. If they're intelligent beings, they'll understand and leave you alone (which is unfortunately the best you can have right now.) It's all about YOU now. The sooner you realize that, the better. Do all you can to get YOURSELF better, without involving any one of them. You're not aiming for revenge, you are not aiming for him to come back to you, you are aiming for yourself to heal and learn to live without him again as you did before for so long. Whatever they do is now none of your business, and finding out about them can't bring anything good to you. Look, I get all of that. I know it's all about me and my healing...But there is so much more involved than just "getting over it in time"...I didn't just lose him...if I had just lost him, this wouldn't be so unbearable! Last year we lost our baby - next month will be one year...I wanted so badly to at least have him as my f-ing friend by the time that "milestone" came...I've lost my home, I've lost my friends, and every time I start to feel like I'm going to be okay and I'm going to be able to make it through, something else is right there kicking me when I'm already down. I didn't think it could get much lower than that, until I found out that he was messing around with this girl. After our blowup last night, the ex said he understood why I'm so hurt. He said he was being selfish and didn't think about how his actions were going to affect me. I feel like they both deserve to see how hurt I am...and maybe that's just me being selfish, but at this point I really just don't care...
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