btc8 Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Hello all, I met this guy online a few weeks ago, and we've ended up really hitting it off. We both actually have a lot in common (blah, blah, etc), and we've been on two dates so far. The first was initiated by him online (we talk on AIM), and it was a coffee and conversation--which went better than I expected. This happened this previous Friday. I had to go home this weekend as it was Easter (we both are students, but more on that later), and I ended the date with a rather open-ended invitation of, "If you want to do anything Sunday (when I return to campus), then just let me know." So, I went home and didn't hear anything from him the rest of the weekend until I was getting ready to go back to campus (about an hour and ten minutes away). He had texted me saying, 'Dinner tonight?' So, I waited about a half-hour to return the text with, 'Sure, I'll call you soon.' We ended up going out for dinner Sunday evening. The dinner was great, and conversation was going good--except there were a few awkward silent moments, but I think that's to be expected. I brought my own money thinking we would go dutch on the evening. He ended up paying, which I had not (really) expected. Like I mentioned before, we both are students: he is in his third-year of medical school and I am a senior undergraduate (but soon to be a grad student at the same school). I want to get back to him to see if there is anything there and thank him again for dinner and maybe to do it again. However, he is very busy, and I am not sure when I should recontact him. I was thinking of sending him a text along the lines of, "Wanted to thank you for dinner again, I had a great time and enjoyed myself. Ever up for doing it again?" I know texting is lame but we both are so busy that I am not sure how to proceed. Any ideas/suggestions? Thank you all! BTC
themessenger Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 (edited) ok contact him again, but a little suttle. I'll tell you what would work for me as a guy, but then thats just me. If you say thanx for diiner again would like to do it again some time, i'll probably call ya and take you to dinner but would need more build up to be excited about it. So chime in say hello, drop suttle hints, but make him ask you. noone is ever to busy to make time to text a crush a couple times. I don't care if he's doing 27 hour rotations. Edited March 25, 2008 by themessenger
spookie Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Any ideas/suggestions? I'd wait for him to contact you.
Star Gazer Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 "Wanted to thank you for dinner again, I had a great time and enjoyed myself. Ever up for doing it again?" Don't say that. By saying that, you put the ball in his court. If he responds with a yes (which, let's assume he will), the ball will be back in YOUR court...and then you'll be left wondering why he's not calling because you're now supposed to do the asking. Just send him a note thanking him for dinner, tell him you had a lovely time and would like to do it again. No question, no invite. Just an open door. Then wait............... (After this next date though, you gotta initiate the fourth date. )
Author btc8 Posted March 25, 2008 Author Posted March 25, 2008 ok contact him again, but a little suttle. I'll tell you what would work for me as a guy, but then thats just me. If you say thanx for diiner again would like to do it again some time, i'll probably call ya and take you to dinner but would need more build up to be excited about it. So chime in say hello, drop suttle hints, but make him ask you. noone is ever to busy to make time to text a crush a couple times. I don't care if he's doing 27 hour rotations. Haha, I imagine that would be very true, about the business, but I do not want to over-rationalize everything. Any idea as to when I should text? I was thinking tomorrow night or Wednesday. Thanks again!
carhill Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 The audio portion of that phone works well too. If there's interest, he'll want to hear your voice again. I'll go out on a limb here and say ring him later this week if you haven't heard from him and just say hello and small talk if he answers or leave a brief VM inviting him to call you (no specifics). Remember, this is romance, so someone does have to talk at some point. If his interest level is there, he'll suggest something.
annie.g Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Don't say that. By saying that, you put the ball in his court. If he responds with a yes (which, let's assume he will), the ball will be back in YOUR court...and then you'll be left wondering why he's not calling because you're now supposed to do the asking. Just send him a note thanking him for dinner, tell him you had a lovely time and would like to do it again. No question, no invite. Just an open door. Then wait............... (After this next date though, you gotta initiate the fourth date. ) The above is exactly what I had in mind. Very well said.
annie.g Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Haha, I imagine that would be very true, about the business, but I do not want to over-rationalize everything. Any idea as to when I should text? I was thinking tomorrow night or Wednesday. Thanks again! Tomorrow or Wednesday is just fine. If he truly likes you, when you call won't really matter.
Lizzie60 Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 I think I would text him what you said.. Thank him (since he paid) and say that next time it's your treat or something like that... If you have a good feeling that you both hit it off.. then chances are he will get back to you. Are you a guy? (I had the feeling you were).. just curious..
Legend Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 ASAP, a minute delayed is a minute wasted. you could die tomorrow.
Author btc8 Posted March 25, 2008 Author Posted March 25, 2008 I think I would text him what you said.. Thank him (since he paid) and say that next time it's your treat or something like that... If you have a good feeling that you both hit it off.. then chances are he will get back to you. Are you a guy? (I had the feeling you were).. just curious.. Yes, I am a guy! That's so weird you got that, I didn't realize I had intimated that. ok contact him again, but a little suttle. I'll tell you what would work for me as a guy, but then thats just me. If you say thanx for diiner again would like to do it again some time, i'll probably call ya and take you to dinner but would need more build up to be excited about it. So chime in say hello, drop suttle hints, but make him ask you. noone is ever to busy to make time to text a crush a couple times. I don't care if he's doing 27 hour rotations. Messanger, this is funny, as we both are guys, but I can tell you that regardless of what type of relationship it is (gay or straight or whatever), I think that there are two types of people involved, and I think that, for the majority of the time, it is the guy who takes charge and the woman who who goes along (at least, in the beginning). When two guys, or girls, are involved, I think there is still the decisive party and the follower. I think I am just the latter in this case, but I've been the former too! Thanks for all of your advice!
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