rileyrileyri Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 hey all. I am in college. There was an incident earlier in the year where I liked a guy and it didnt work out. I am still very attracted to him, and kinda frustrated because I dont know why, but I no longer want to date him or picture him as my boyfriend or anything. He has never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl. Hes an awkward person, shy with girls I guess but not shy in general. Basically he did some things to suggest he liked me, and I didnt feel like it was wishful thinking bc others agreed too... but I guess I misread them wrong or he just led me on because it didnt work out. His friends are pretty immature and once they all figured it out they [COLOR=#eb508f]meddled big time[/COLOR] without asking me. This guy told his friends he didnt like me but apparently wants to be friends. I didnt know what was going on for awhile, but once I found out I stopped talking to all of them, including the guy I liked. (he apparently noticed and kept asking a mutual friend why I was doing that) My one friend who is very close with them was the one who told me everything- not really sure about him, because 1) he use to like me. he has a gf now but apparently still has a thing for me, so much so he is very ambivalent, meaning hes extremely nice then very rude. 2) he kept contradicting himself with everything. Apparently my crush and some of his friends got [COLOR=#eb508f]mad[/COLOR] at this guy saying it wasnt his place to tell me that stuff (even though my crush would never have done it himself!) so when I found out I told him that I was sorry everyone was mad at him and he did the right thing. He thanked me and said he was glad someone agreed with him but later was like "yeah he didnt get mad at all when I told him I told you" Also, he first told me I was stupid for thinking he liked me and then later said "Im sorry for meddling, it might have turned out different if I hadnt" which I dont believe, if this guy liked me he would have jumped on the chance upon finding out I liked him back no matter how shy he is. my point of my post is I feel stupid cause my body totally goes into overdrive when Im around him. whenever I see him I really feel like Im having a stroke, so I avoid being around him as much as possible but its a small campus so its hard to never see him. has anyone else ever experienced this? I keep telling myself its my fault I let it get to me this much. I have never felt this way about anyone, even with my ex whom I still love dearly and would date again in a heartbeat. (the attraction wasnt this strong in the beginning of the relationship) At a party last month, I was having a great time until the host called him and told him to come over. apparently he said he didnt want to come and when the host called him his friend picked up. the host told him to get his ass over there because "shes" here (the host was drunk and he didnt know about the situation...so it wasnt cause of that. he said my name bc I was there and he was happy I came) anyway his friend who answered relayed the message to him and he came right over and actually tried to talk to me several times. I just really wanted him to leave me alone. It would have been fine if he seemed...sincere i guess-but he was acting like he didnt notice me at the same time so I didnt know how to react. (you know how most of the time you can tell when someone is about to talk to you? this guy doesnt do that) he sat down next to me for awhile and didnt look at me and i felt so freakin uncomfortable. when we left he said good night and seemed nice so I assume hes just upset Im mad? We werent close friends before at all but hes a very sensitive guy. will this go away after awhile? has anyone else experienced this?
Covonia Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 This reminds of me of Paramore's - Crushcrushcrush song, and to answer your question, yes it will go away after awhile, you'll probably meet someone with who knows what they want and that's you, why waste your time with someone who doesn't know what he wants and rushes into things like a rabbit caught in the headlights? And no, I haven't experienced this, I have had a girl that lead me on, got into a relationship and strung me along for about two months. I finally figured it out and cut of all contact citing it 'was her loss'. I haven't seen her since then.
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