kylewheat698 Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 My ex and I have been broken up for almost 3 weeks now. We've been dating for over 2 years. recently she had an EA with a guy she knew in highschool. He is away in the army, and i noticed her talking to him a lot. She of course said they were just friends, and i had no choice but to belive her. So we go on vacation to Florida, everything was fine. Within 5 days of getting back she breaks up with me. Girls are so mean. She let me pay for everything during the trip. anyway, the breakup got a little nasty because when she moved her stuff out, she wanted to take one of our cats. i denied her, and she called me the most selfish person she had ever met, and that she never wanted to talk to me again. i tried to speak to hear a week after we broke up and she would just say stuff like bite me, or go to hell. she says stuff that she doesn't mean when she's mad, she does the same thing to her folks when she's mad at them. So i've been blocked on her im for the past 2 weeks. and we've been no contact for the last week and a half. on easter i stupidly sent her a text saying happy easter. i hope your doing well. within 2 minutes of sending that text she unblocked me on her im. she didn't respond, but i'm just wondering if this is a sign of hope for future communication. i know she loves me very much. she has trouble with depression, and is not good at communicating how she feels to other people. she has a lot of pride and will have trouble initiating a conversation with me after some of the things she said. we've kind of had a similar situation before. I'm hoping that in a month or two her she'll miss me and she'll realize this guy she's been talking to is not the man for her. Anyone think that unblocking me means she wants me to talk to her. i'm back on no contact but get the urge every second of every day to just say hi, it's hard
stoneymirror Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 I'd just move on. Find another girl, there's millions of them out there ready for a nice guy like yourself. Fear, and anxiety seem to get the best of us in these times and we end up wanting only what we don't have. I'd seriously re-evaluate this situation and see if it's really something you want. And what's going to prevent this from happening saying you get back together? You want to go through this again in 6 months? I doubt it. I know it's hard to hear but I don't think she's ready to make a commitment. Time heals all wounds, you'll be okay. and I bet if you met another girl you'd forget about the old one very quickly. Get back out there and enjoy life. Stop yourself from thinking you need this girl, its all in your head. Trust me...she's not good for you...
dfreeman Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Stay the hell out of my head! Wow, you just hit about every thought going through my head lately: Fear, and anxiety seem to get the best of us in these times and we end up wanting only what we don't have. This must be tough to believe when a breakup is fresh, because I thought for sure I wasn't falling for this 7 weeks ago. Now, it's the only reason I can think of for still (in some sick-ass little way) wanting another chance with her. I'd seriously re-evaluate this situation and see if it's really something you want. And what's going to prevent this from happening saying you get back together? You want to go through this again in 6 months? GREAT advice stoney - this is another thing that I think becomes bigger as your healing progresses. Kyle - please understand that if you give yourself just a couple more weeks, I would be willing to bet that you would not want to go through this hell again. Sure miracles happen, and if my current ex somehow showed a complete change in attitude, I would consider it, but we are talking miracles that she doesn't have in her. Without miracles or trumped-up fantasies, my past situation always re-evaluates to me not wanting what I had with her. Time heals all wounds, you'll be okay. and I bet if you met another girl you'd forget about the old one very quickly. Get back out there and enjoy life. Stop yourself from thinking you need this girl, its all in your head. Trust me...she's not good for you... Time hasn't healed me all the way yet Kyle (by the high standards I set for myself, I am still feeling pretty pathetic at times), but just six weeks ago, I would have dropped all sense of pride and come running back to my ex if she so much as shook her little ass at me. Give yourself a little time and the stuff people talk about on here will dig its hooks into you. Once that happens, a little hottie will sense it and scoop you up like dogs#i+ Good luck and get well, dfree
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