I am Jack's inflamed sense of rejection

[1st real rejection]

I was seeing this girl for a few months, I liked being around her but it was more of a physical relationship. I told her that i was ready for a serious relationship, but we were together for months anyway. She eventually started dating another guy a couple of weeks ago. At first I actually thought it was a good thing that she didn't get too attached to me. But as time passed I realized how much i liked her and how bad I wanted her back. It took that loss to make me realize what I had. So I told her a couple of days ago how i felt, she cried, and I cried a little for putting her in such an awkward situation. She said she has feelings for meand she said she would break it off with the new guy and be my girlfriend... But she couldn't go through with it... she said she wasn't ready to give up on her new relationship... this went back and forth for a while before she finally made a decision last night... she chose him. We were together one last time and she left... I'm not very good at this kind of thing. I know she still has feelings for me, should i go after her, see if she comes back, or just try to heal? I really need some advice. It's hard to talk to my friends because they all think i'm better off with out her. I'm very confused

[BlueHaiku]

I think you need to move on and heal. Look, you learned a valuable lesson here about what you thought you were looking for and what you actually discovered you were looking for. Take that lesson and move on with a newfound sense of yourself.

 

I understand it's hard (I'm going through my own hard stuff right now, too, so I can empathize), but you need to respect her decision to stick with the other guy.

 

Your confusion (and I'm not stating this as blame, merely as fact) is what got you and her into this painful mess. And because of that, you need to give her her freedom to get out of it.

 

Respecting her decision is also what you should do if you really care about her.

 

Learn your lesson, move on, and find someone else to start out fresh and right.

[NuTuDating]

Yep, you'd feel a lot better if you found a new gal to date. Much of the "regret" feeling after you break up with someone is the "oh ****, now I don't have anyone" feeling. Be single, enjoy it. Move on.