iwish Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 Hey, i'm not sure if i have a chance or not.. She texted me on Friday and we had an SMS conversation, nice and friendly.. I asked her if she'd see me next Saturday.. she replied with... Yes Alright then, but no pressure, no arguing, friends having a laugh, Deal? I’m scared of getting hurt again. I didn't reply with anything straight away ( i was out ) she SMS'd again 10 mins later, with... Right, don’t ask me then not reply! Either we go out on my terms to chat about stuff, relaxed or not at all!! Yes or no?! Now i'm hoping that it's in my hands now, that i can try and woo her back.. you know like a date.. we've been SMSing over the weekend, and i've been asking her what she would like to do and suggested getting dressed up and going somewhere nice.. she did sms me this at some point.. Also spenging lots of money isn’t going to make a difference, one way or the other. You don’t need to either, i’m not a material girl, there’s no need. we are going to go for a meal in a nice restaurant, get dressed up, etc.. Is that not a date? have a got a chance? confused...
0hpenelope Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 Who broke up with who? Proceed with your plans with caution - extreme caution. Hope is good, but don't formulate expectations. I'm all for second chances. They rarely come by and it's even more rare that the second chance works out for the long haul. So... good luck.
Author iwish Posted March 24, 2008 Author Posted March 24, 2008 she dumped me, my story is on here.. the thing is, i just feel that it's in my hands, a couple of weeks ago she wouldn't even see me and now we are meeting up.. it is a good sign.. but deep down i think that she is just going to be cold.. it's rubbish!
youngbuckkk Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 I don't wanna sound like an a$$, but I wouldn't get my hopes up with that. I've been following your story, so I know the details, but I have one question for you that I am not so clear about. Why did she break it off? I think you said that she wanted to smoke pot with some dude. Now you need to ask yourself why this happened. Did you try to stop her from hanging out with this guy (too controlling to her) did you become too crazy about it (too jealous) or did she simply fall for him? You can't fix something if you don't know what's broken. "Yes Alright then, but no pressure, no arguing, friends having a laugh, Deal?" -To me this sounds as though she probably does miss you in her life, but she seems to be making it clear that at least at this point she does not want a romantic relationship with you. Just don't get the hopes up, and whatever you do, don't act like a lunatic with the begging and pleading or getting angry if she doesn't say what you want to hear. That will only push her away further and make you feel like crap once again.
Author iwish Posted March 24, 2008 Author Posted March 24, 2008 she broke it off because of the controlling issue, the fact that i didn't like it when she wanted to just stay in and smoke weed with this guy.. i got jealous of that and well the way i see it, if they haven't gotten it on now, then they probably never would have.. and since the split i've sorted my own life out and have more friends, new hobbies so if she wants to do that, then i will just be ok, i'm going out with so and so... yes she isn't saying that the romance is going to be there, but she is willing to let me take her to a nice restaurant, both of us dressing up.. i mean, that is a date?! I'm trying not to get my hopes up, my intentions are to show her that i'm not the begging, pleading angry man i was after we broke.. and that i am in fact balanced confident, and quite fun to be with guy that she loved.. If i show her that again, who knows? maybe just maybe it'll happen... very scared though, oh and she's being cold again already by SMS...
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