Queequeg Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 The ex and I hooked up a week ago, while he was with his current woman. He lied to her while it was happening, but came clean a few days later. He got mad at me, and went back to her. Later that night, he hid in the bathroom from her to call me and apologize... I went out on a pseudo-date on Friday with a guy I've known for quite a while. It was awkward, and I don't think I'll see him again. My ex sent me a text while I was out, and I replied that I was busy with someone else. He calls me in a panic after that, asking me who I'm with, what I'm doing, etc. I told him I had to go, and he asked if he could call me later. I reluctantly agreed.. So he hides in the bathroom from his woman again to call me. She's pretty much homeless and taking advantage of living with my ex for the past 3 weeks at his parents' house. (They JUST started going out Feb 29!) He starts going on about how their fights are worse than what we ever went through, how dumb and clingy she is, etc. He says they won't work, but he can't break up with her yet. I guess he's using her. Last night he finally got her to go stay somewhere else and called me as soon as she left! Ha! We talked for hours about our problems together, and how they could possibly be solved. He doesn't know what he wants. I told him how I felt, that I have to focus on myself for a while, but I would take him back at this point. He told me he's considering it, but not to rush him. I told him I can only wait for so long. It just feels stupid, he's still with this girl, and he wants me to wait for him to make up his mind while he's sleeping with her every night and ****ing her? I'm doing other things with my life, but the constant wondering of when he's going to call me is back. I don't want that, but I also don't want to give him an ultimatum and scare him away.
Lyssa Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 He says they won't work, but he can't break up with her yet. I guess he's using her. They are using each other. Why is it hard for him to break it off if they won't work out anymore? All the constant hiding etc - not good.
EllaDerSpin Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 I guess you only have to look at the way he treats people and wonder if you want to be treated like that yourself. He is lying to, and using at least one woman here. Do you want to be with a guy who acts this way? As for her using him, whose word do you have on that? His? It seems he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. You could always make it easier for him by handing his cake to him on a plate.
City_girl Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Maybe it's just me but I think he's actually with her and using you. I wouldn't go near him with a ten foot pole if he was skrewing some other woman and I was suddenly the other woman? If you accept this now it will set a presedent and you would be wize to put an end to this man's having his cake and eating it or it will go on forever and or she will be the first in a long line
0hpenelope Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 By the time he figures it out and decides for himself that you're the good girl that he wants after all, I hope you'll be far and ways away from him. My ex still doesn't know what he wants, but I can't figure that out for him. What he's said to me doesn't go with his actions and I'm through waiting around. =T Good luck!
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