Flor Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 So I have a boyfriend thats 22 years old I am 19 years old. Ive been with him for about 6 months already. I love him so much and I know he loves me the same but I am always doubting, feeling insecure, always thinking about his past relationships. Theres times when I am feeling that he may be cheating on me when he tells me, he swears to me he will never do such a thing. I guess the reason why is just the fact that hes older, hes done it with i dont know how many girls, from stories I had heard, and him being my first, I hate myself thinking such things about him. I have my reasons though. He once told me about one girl that would spend the nights at his house, and that girls would send him pictures..how do you think that makes me feel..knowing that about his past!!? It bugs me also, when he would get mad at me he would tell me..."if you want you go do your own things and I'll do the same, I'll call up my girls and do whatever" Its like him saying he'll go mess around without caring. As if hes those guys who just love screawing around. But I know he loves and cares about me..he shown that but I dont know whats wrong with me always crying, asking him wheres his at, with who and etc when I know he wouldnt do anything wrong!! right!!? I am soo confused
bejshermanoaks Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 Heres the deal--get the cheating idea out of your head--all that negativity and worry will hurt things. We get what we think about, so stop thinking about it.. take this example: a woman thinks her man is cheating (maybe she was cheated on in the past so she expects it from every guy) So, she goes through her mans emails, scrolls through his phone when hes asleep, questions him a little more than she needs to when he comes home about where hes been--eventually that behavior will trickle out in little ways to how you are communicating/talking/acting--and that nervous paranoia will push the man away, and possibly cause him to cheat obviously the above example is extreme, but do you get my point? When you think about something, you are more likely to make it happen and manifest it..so, instead of thinking that, think about how much he loves you, and you will manifest more loving things... The insecurities inside you might be the problem---work on that... You become what you think, good and bad--so think good... If he is cheating on you , there is nothing you can do about it--so until you know for sure and have real reasons to suspect (i dont think your reasons above are great reasons), LET IT GO--otherwerise you will push him away...
Author Flor Posted March 25, 2008 Author Posted March 25, 2008 Thanks for replying. I am so stupid for thinking the way I do. Letting little things get to my head. Its not good for me right!? Its just hard being with someone who I know hes past and it hurts. Its the past, they were all the past, they dont matter I am the one who matter now!!
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