MalachiX Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 My Ex and I broke up a little more than a month ago after about two and a half years together. It had been a long distance relationship for the past year or so since she was off in Grad school. I'm alright dealing with just myself. It hurts and it sucks and there are some amazingly dark times but I'm trying to be strong and I'll get through it and hopefully be stronger because of it. I'm just having trouble dealing with questions from those not informed. People my age (24) and close friends are pretty much fine since they knew we broke up from Facebook and I've talked a bit with some of them. The hard part comes from the older people. The ones who I run into from time and time and, simply being polite, ask me, "how's your girlfriend doing?" I still havn't come up with an answer and, for all but one (a Minister friend I have coffee with every week or two) I've lied and just said, "she's doing well." I don't think I'm in denial. I know that there's a very slim chance we'll get back together and I'm not even sure if I want that but I don't know how to deal with the damn questions. I hate the thought of someone asking me all cheery, "so how's your lady friend?" and I respond, "actually, we broke up." Especially since a whole lot in my life hasn't been working too well lately (no doubt why people go first for the girlfriend question) I hate the thought of them saying, "oh, I'm sorry" and then giving me a look of pity. I don't want ****ing pity right now. So, has anyone come up with a good way to deal with this? I've got a few ideas that I havn't tried yet. a.) Yell, "look over there" then run away. b.) Set the building on fire and use that as a diversion to escape. c.) Start crying hysterically (might be kind of fun) and hope they get weirded out and leave. d.) Start chugging whatever form of alcohal is nearbye and hope they make the connection. Any other ideas?
LuCidiTy Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 my answer varies depending on who's asking me and ranges from "no idea...you'll need to ask him," to "who?" your list is funny.
eric82 Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 quote the scene in Happy Gilmore when the grandmother asks "what happened to that lovely girlfriend of yours?" and he responds nonchalantly "oh she got hit by a car. she's dead."
Ofleg7 Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Tell the truth. "Oh, it didn't work out". If they give you a pitying look or say something like "that sucks, sorry" just say "it was for best". Generally they're only going to pity you if they think that you're cut up about it. . which you may well be, but dont let it show.
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