joel Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 ever dated or went out with a girl who had something i would call a double standard. they expect and made indirect comments about myself not owning and having a car and access to a car, when ur a college student who has to pay his own school fees. owning a car in Vancouver is expensive if your not making a lot of money in your p/t 10/hr dead end job. funny thing is the girl(nikki) didn;t even have a car, access to a car or even a drivers licnese. at least i had my drivers license. hey why don't you get a car. another girl i met in college before, was similar to the car incident,but didn't make as much a deal about it. she asked me if i was going to pusue a degree , i wasn;t sure at that time. from talking to her , i can tell she wanted a educated 4 yr degree guy. she even said she wanted a guy with a bachelor degree. funny thing is she doesn't even have a degree, but is a drop out of a community college pracitical nursing 8 month program .lol wow double standard. hey. a car was neccessary too, but talking to them it had to be someting decent. a newer or close to new model car. nothing too old, who nows. i could get a car ,but nothing special and i just don't want the added expense. i work p/t in a 10/hr job and most of the money goes to school fees. college schooling for a degree isn't cheap. 2400 for a semester not including 600 for textbooks. i have female friends who had car , nothing nice -civic, accords and have dated guys who had no cars and also had lower educaiton than them. they hhave a 4 yr univ degree. one of them drove me home from work , and the other i met off the net. they are decent looking and not fat. too bad they aren't interested though. funny thing is these 2 girls weren't hotties(thicker side, obese and chubbyand fat girls) either, probably a 3.5,4 out of 10 according to my friends, my buddy met angela said a -4 lol . why i ask em out. lol easier to get their numbers, and you now they going say oh YESS when u ask em out.funny these thicker girls have high expectations, but aren't really like moedels. you can't even tell b/c both of these girl, were like plain janes, hooodies, no make up, simple dressed and wearing nothing fancy. u think they won't be like that, but they are. i guess it says to tell, you can't tell by looking. i guess i was desperato at that time. lol. i don't care what ppl here say. we are in the 21 st century and its all equal opportunity.girls should have univ degrees now, should have their own car. even if i had a car, i not going be driving you aorund all the time. not like some guys who are doormats do. i could get a car with my money, its just that i chose not to. i got better things to spend my $ on. had any guys had this problem before, girls who lacked something, but expected the guy to have it.
shanny Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 I'm a girl, so I'm not sure if you really want my opinion... but to be honest your post cracked me up. When I was in college, I had a car but dated a guy for a year that didn't. I never would have made him feel bad about it. We came from totally different situations (I had a lot of help from my parents and he didn't). I respected him for doing what he needed to do to get his education. Heck, I even let him borrow my car when he needed it. As far as the chubby thing... I don't know. I'm certainly not chubby (most guys rate me a 9 on the oh so popular with guys 1-10 scale) and I would never put expectation on someone like they did. If they're busting on you for not having a car, you should bust on them right back. Tell them that you know of a really nice gym or how tasty the newest dinner by Lean Cuisine is. Mean, I know, but come on! Nobody likes a double standard. Good luck... hopefully you got all the losers out of the way and can find a realistic girl soon.
Tracey111 Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 Tell them to hit the road.....god, are people really this shallow???? P.S. Don't take it personally....it's about them and not you..
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