Galexia Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 Hi. it's been a while since i last wrote. Here's what happenend. I had a great man in my life. We totally "got" each other, had (and still have) wild chemistry and really hit it off. About 8 months into our relationship, I wanted to know where we were going. He didn't have an answer for me. I think i may have pressured him for an answer, for a future, when he wasn't really ready for one. He told me he wasn't the marrying kind. We broke up, but I had the hardest time getting over him because I truly thought he was the one. A few weeks after we split, we had that typical reconnection relationship where we thought we could work it out, had sex, and realized things were exactly the same. I wanted more than he could give. ....Then he moved on. He found someone else who he claimed to have loved, but for some reason would continue having sex with me behind her back. I just wanted my man back and would do just about anything to have him. I thought, he really loves me, not her, especially because he was getting together with me on the side. At one point in our relationship, he said he could not be alone with me or else he'd get into trouble. We are totally irresistable for one another, yet he for some reason could never find it him to commit to me. Anyway, he stayed with this other woman and eventually married her. He had his vasectomy reversed and was all of a sudden a committed man. He was going the whole nine yards with this one and I was crushed. She did find out about him cheating on her with me, and ordered him to never have contact with me again. And he did....up until last week. He emailed me, after 5-6 years to tell me that his wife left and that he wasn't sure if she was ever coming back. Their rings were off and he said that if she didn't make up her mind in a month, he wasn't going to wait and he would file for divorce. He was contacting me to clean up an old mess. Or so he said. It took me forever to get over him and I was excited and nervous about him reconnecting with me. Our email led to a phone call, and we quickly got caught up on our lives and what we had been doing for the last 6 years. All of my emotions for this man came back full force, and I find myself wondering if we have a chance to try again. He wanted to have phone sex with me, but i said no (as much as i wanted it too). My problem is, I am having a hard time getting over him, yet again and really want to get back togehter. I just don't know if he'd be open to that if his wife does leave for good. My heart has been aching for days now and i just want him back. Do I have a chance, or is he just using me for A) validation because he is hurting emotionally, B) He is getting back at the wife who HATES my guts C) he really does just want to clean up an old mess, or D) none of the above? I really cannot stop thinking about him, and what a power couple I think we could be, but I'm just not sure if I am being a total fool, that he will never want me back and I'm setting myself up for heartbreak all over again. Anyone have any idea why he reconnected with me? Why would he do this? Thanks for reading and thanks for your advice.
sedona Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 Sorry, don't know. It could be for any of the reasons you list. But please go slow and be careful. Stop romanticizing about what could be and don't forget what happened. Your relationship ended for a reason. You could be his rebound and could be letting yourself in for a rocky ride. Take care of yourself.
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