lovesparis Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 i've been dating a guy for about 6wks. we are exclusive. i care for him about the same level that i did for previous bf's with the exception of my most recent ex, who i am still deeply in love with. i care for bf, just not to the level which i care for hans, my ex. anyway, the other night, patrick, my bf, told me how he can picture us getting married and how he really wants to spend the rest of his life iwht me. on one hand it's exciting, on the other hand it absolutely terrifies me. we have not been dating for any decent length of time. there are still unresolved feelings i have for my ex. i fear his reasons for sharing this thought with me. (he's said it a few tiimes) i struggle with dating men who fall in love with me rapidly and then wake up one morning and decide i'm not who they made me out to be. how can i bring up to him that although i'm flattered he feels that way, i don't trust his feelings? help!
Lizzie60 Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 i've been dating a guy for about 6wks. we are exclusive. i care for him about the same level that i did for previous bf's with the exception of my most recent ex, who i am still deeply in love with. i care for bf, just not to the level which i care for hans, my ex. anyway, the other night, patrick, my bf, told me how he can picture us getting married and how he really wants to spend the rest of his life iwht me. on one hand it's exciting, on the other hand it absolutely terrifies me. we have not been dating for any decent length of time. there are still unresolved feelings i have for my ex. i fear his reasons for sharing this thought with me. (he's said it a few tiimes) i struggle with dating men who fall in love with me rapidly and then wake up one morning and decide i'm not who they made me out to be. how can i bring up to him that although i'm flattered he feels that way, i don't trust his feelings? help! This is easy: Tell him that it's only been 6 weeks and there is absolutely no way he can say he wants to spend the rest of his life with you after 6 weeks.. Tell him to 'wake up and smell the Java'.. or roll a newspaper and smack him across the head.. This guy is 'dreaming'.. He's completely cut off from reality.. Just tell him to hold on and you'll have the same discussion in 6 years..
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