kingofkings989 Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Ive had been dating this girl for the past 4 months. Everything was honestly amazing for the both of us. Early in the 4 months I found out that she was bi sexual. At first I was really excited. She had told me in her past she had done alot more things with girls than she has with guys. So I felt pretty special. We go to school together and are required to work an internship. She chose to work up at a millitary base about an hour away from where we live. Every since she started going up there, we became alot more distant. All she could talk about was her new job and her new roomates life, who was rather attractive. I wasn't completely thrilled that she wanted to work up there full time, meaning I wouldn't be able to see her as much. But I was always supportive of her career choice and wanted her to be happy. Weeks went on and we just grew even more distant. Then one night, she breaks it off, but for reasons unknown at the time, just a feeling. Later she tells me its because she has changed and in her gut she doesn't love me like she used to, she feels it's more friendship than anything else. Also she feels I wouldn't be able to handle the distance. I told her that that no matter where she is I will always make it work. But she wasn't accepting that. Now broken up. Ive never seen her party and drink as much as ever before. its been 4 weeks, and shes been a party animal. We went out for friendly drinks at a club the other night with some friends of ours and Ive never seen a girl more disintrested in me and so intrested in her girlfriends she was dancing with. We were friends before the relationship and even then she gave me alot more attention than she did that night. I felt as if she had no attraction to me what so ever. Even to be friendly, I bought her a drink and drove her home, it felt as if she didn't want me to be there. I see her everyday at college, we have gone from taking as friends, to sitting together as a couple to not talking at all as so called friends now. My question is, How can a girl go from deeply in love with someone, to completly not finding the other person attractive at all anymore?. Does it have something to do with her being Bi because I get the feeling she's liking girls alot more these days. And could it be that she is 20 years old and moving out on her own and wants to be reckless and free. I'm 24 and still can't believe how things turned out. It's hard for me because I want to know what the real problem is for closure on my part. But its all so confusing. Another thing is when we went to that club that night. Every 5 mins she was either txting or making a phone call. Please help me out scarlet Teen I'm so confused I just want to know what happened. Thanks
sedgwick Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 Who is scarlet Teen? I was with you until that part! I'd say her being 20 has more to do with it than anything. When I was 20, all I wanted to do was run around and party. I'm sorry you're going through this. There really is a big difference between 24 and 20.
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