Bemused gal Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 I met this guy and I really really liked him. For a period of 3 months, we did everything together, funny, but it has been 6 yrs since I had felt like that. We were just hanging out, it was very platonic, and I was wondering why he never made a move. And then, I found out that he had been keeping the fact he had a gf from me. So after a period of not talking to each other, we decided to be friends, and everything was swimmingly well for awhile. Till one night we ended up in bed. It was amazing, and for a period of time I was so happy. However, after the next day, I realized what I had did, and I took him out for coffee and explained why I could not see him again. That it was wrong to his girlfriend, wrong to him, wrong to me as I deserved more, that I cared for him very much and that he had made me very happy but it was better for us not to meet each other. Since then he had asked me not to go, but I've been adamant that I would not see him again unless he's single and available. I don't think he would leave his gf. Its been a month since we have not corresponded. I miss him so much. I would give alot to be able to see him again. But I know this is the best for everyone involved. I just want someone to tell me that I am doing the right thing and I should continue doing the right thing. Because it is so difficult to let go of something you want, and everyday I try to tell myself to let go and that happier things lie ahead.
Rogue Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 I met this guy and I really really liked him. For a period of 3 months, we did everything together, funny, but it has been 6 yrs since I had felt like that. We were just hanging out, it was very platonic, and I was wondering why he never made a move. And then, I found out that he had been keeping the fact he had a gf from me. So after a period of not talking to each other, we decided to be friends, and everything was swimmingly well for awhile. Till one night we ended up in bed. It was amazing, and for a period of time I was so happy. However, after the next day, I realized what I had did, and I took him out for coffee and explained why I could not see him again. That it was wrong to his girlfriend, wrong to him, wrong to me as I deserved more, that I cared for him very much and that he had made me very happy but it was better for us not to meet each other. Since then he had asked me not to go, but I've been adamant that I would not see him again unless he's single and available. I don't think he would leave his gf. Its been a month since we have not corresponded. I miss him so much. I would give alot to be able to see him again. But I know this is the best for everyone involved. I just want someone to tell me that I am doing the right thing and I should continue doing the right thing. Because it is so difficult to let go of something you want, and everyday I try to tell myself to let go and that happier things lie ahead. Technically he is single because he is not married. Right now his GF is nothing more than your competitor. All's fair in love and war...
wareagle Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 You did absolutely the right thing. He is cheating on his current girlfriend with you, what say's he wouldn't do the same to you if you were exclusive? Once a cheater always a cheater in my mind.
Rogue Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 You did absolutely the right thing. He is cheating on his current girlfriend with you, what say's he wouldn't do the same to you if you were exclusive? Once a cheater always a cheater in my mind. Who said he was exclusive? Obviously from his actions he is not.
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