gramsbear Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Its been a long road,but here is where we are at now. WE have chosen to cancel this divorce,his choice. He remains living with her. I stay in the house with my family.WE have a legal agreement for all this. Since I found out for sure in Oct 07 I started a divorce,he came home,I cancelled it.Two days before Xmas I caught him at her house.I stole his truck from where he had hidden it,throw out important work files .His boss had to be involved.It was a mess.He filed for divorce on Dec 29.We had NC for 1 month. We began talking about open marriage and when she found out she said NO to him spending any time/nights here.So I knew his talk of reconcilation was not going to work.At this point I was an emotional wreck.I got drunk,started a fight,it got physical,police involed,the whole mess.I hated myself for this. Ive been seeing an IC since January and knew that I needed to let him go.The huge fight ,although a bad thing,somehow seemed to release all my rage and I finally knew I could let him go.And I have. I do not reccomend doing any of what I did.Letting go of him ,in my heart was what made me able to accept that hes gone,I am able to function as a mom,grandma,and take better care of my family.I have gone to a few places and had fun.Not looking for a man.I have gone from an emotional heap on my bedroom floor to someone who now looks forward. We remain friends,he visits our family often.We are being honest about everything we do and feel.We talk.We enjoy the bond that 27 years gives you.Will he ever come home?Dont know.I do know that I dont NEED him to and its a good feeling. Just wanted to share this with you......
Author gramsbear Posted March 22, 2008 Author Posted March 22, 2008 PS My original post was under the name of INSHOCK.
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