dancingshoes Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 hi new here . i have been with my man for 3 years. The relationship has been up and down for the past 12 months. 1 week ago he texted me saying that he was busy and would ring me after he finished work to "talk about us". (we have just had a rough patch), I then didnt here from here for 1 week and received this text from him last night. Could someone please interpret it for me as I am totally confused - "Hey i know that i havent called but we cant last two days without fighting. i think we both want different things. I will call you tomorrow so we can talk im just confused and under a lot of stress at work and im going to bed. I will call you tomorrow." Ok, he never rang again! What the hell do I do....my head is about to explode. thank you...
Ocean-Blue Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 hi new here . i have been with my man for 3 years. The relationship has been up and down for the past 12 months. 1 week ago he texted me saying that he was busy and would ring me after he finished work to "talk about us". (we have just had a rough patch), I then didnt here from here for 1 week and received this text from him last night. Could someone please interpret it for me as I am totally confused - "Hey i know that i havent called but we cant last two days without fighting. i think we both want different things. I will call you tomorrow so we can talk im just confused and under a lot of stress at work and im going to bed. I will call you tomorrow." Ok, he never rang again! What the hell do I do....my head is about to explode. thank you... He's quite inconsiderate. This is a person you've been with for 3 years and he doesn't have the time to call you up and tell you what's up? He's likely to either want a 'break' or want to actually breakup. Be prepared for this. Do you think that his comments are warranted? Have you been unreasonable? Has the fighting been caused by you? My best advice is to be prepared for the talk as best you can.
Author dancingshoes Posted March 22, 2008 Author Posted March 22, 2008 hi thanks for the reply. Bit of background is he is a chronic pothead and and is about to turn 28 (saturn return hehe). He lived with me for 1 year and a half and I kicked him out. He wants to live with me again but I keep saying "No" as I am not seeing him try to give up the pot. When we first got together he was clean after being a pot head, but he had given it all up by then, but he went back to it when we were together which wasnt my scene. That was when I had had enough and broke up with him. The past twelve months we have been off and on, but he keeps pressuring me to live with me again, but I cant be with a drug addict. I dont mind pot smokers, but he smokes 20-30 bongs a day. As for that message, I had already told him it was over and he quickly responded with text message saying he would ring me that day and a week later there was nothing cept that second message... I guess I have been trying to get over him for the past 12 months but I kept letting him back in because I thought there was something between us...Maybe I have waited for him to be the hero in the relationship and to leave me alone but Im upset that I wasnt even worth a phonecall, just 2 stoopid text messages....
Ocean-Blue Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 hi thanks for the reply. Bit of background is he is a chronic pothead and and is about to turn 28 (saturn return hehe). He lived with me for 1 year and a half and I kicked him out. He wants to live with me again but I keep saying "No" as I am not seeing him try to give up the pot. When we first got together he was clean after being a pot head, but he had given it all up by then, but he went back to it when we were together which wasnt my scene. That was when I had had enough and broke up with him. The past twelve months we have been off and on, but he keeps pressuring me to live with me again, but I cant be with a drug addict. I dont mind pot smokers, but he smokes 20-30 bongs a day. As for that message, I had already told him it was over and he quickly responded with text message saying he would ring me that day and a week later there was nothing cept that second message... I guess I have been trying to get over him for the past 12 months but I kept letting him back in because I thought there was something between us...Maybe I have waited for him to be the hero in the relationship and to leave me alone but Im upset that I wasnt even worth a phonecall, just 2 stoopid text messages.... You need to just walk away then. He has to adult up and give up the pot. If you want to break it off, just do it and don't take his calls. Don't allow him to get back into your head (and heart). Tell him to grow up and then give you a call. You are not his mother or babysitter.
soconfused71 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Im glad you read my post and somewhat understand me...The hard thing is that I left...I finally had enough so why do I feel so bad??? funny becuse I use to smoke pot and lots of it and i had stopped. Only smoked on occasion like 1 time every 3 months or so but when the problems started it seems like I began to smoke more often..I found it helped with the stress...But anyways...I think that the age diffrence somewhat matters. I know that at 25 I was not that irresponsible either but maybe i was lucky..I think as we get older we realize that paying bills on time and so fourth matters. I dont think that they being younger see that picture yet....it sucks because im hurting and he is begging me to come back but as much as I am hurting something is preventing me from going back..I dont undderstand it its so confusing...
witabix Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Take off those dancing shoes and put on some walking shoes. This guy sounds like a dopehead extra-ordinaire. But that is what happens to a lot of poeple on dope, thats why its called that maybe? Get rid of him, and move on.
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