EllaDerSpin Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 If anyone has any insight it would be much appreciated. Even though I know this is a pointless thing to do, to live in regret, I just cannot get him out of my head. He loved me so very much, more than I have been loved before or since. He was wise and calming and caring. At the time I was in no state for love and I ended first a relationship, and then a friendship as it was clear he still loved me Last I heard he was with someone. I cannot help thinking that had I stayed with him everything in my life would have been so much better and would be so much better now. He always said that he still loved all of his exes, and he always kept in touch with them. Yet when I tried to contact him about 8 months ago, he never replied... I guess he really doesnt like me very much.
pigeonsid Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 It's really hard to stop thinking about them, missing them, stop trying to figure out what really happened and what they're thinking. But you go crazy if you keep dwelling on it. Just because he doesn't contact you doesn't mean that he doesn't still love you, or that he doesn't still think about you. It really just means that the relationship is over and he wants it to be over. When that happens, you need to let go, for your own sake more than anything else. I also have moments where I feel that my life has fallen apart since my ex left me, but that isn't true. Things have changed - it isn't what I expected it to be, but there is still so much good in my life that exists without him. I also had never really been loved the way my ex loved me, but I keep reminding myself that he isn't the only one who will love me like that. Just because the past has been one way, doesn't mean the future is going to be the same. It's hard to get over the regretful phase, but you will. Just keep putting new things in your life, keep getting through the days, and eventually you'll find out why the breakup had to happen, because great things are going to happen that wouldn't have been possible if you weren't going through this tough time now. Take care.
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