sniperv1 Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Hello im new to this site and need advice about 3 weeks ago my wife and i entered the world of swinging, we experimented with another couple but never fully swapped but his wife & mine did there thing, my wife enjoyed it and i have to say it turned me on as well. since this happened our sex life has been amazing. Within the last week my wife approched me with a question about how i would feel if i watched her be with another man, it sounded exciting to me visualizing it in my head but im not sure if i could go threw with it, but nonetheless i gave her my blessing and she found someone threw a swinging website that she liked and wants to set a date up for it i really dont know how to take it 1 part of me it would seem exciting to watch but the other part dosent want to see it, but i dont want to deny my wife her fantasy.. i sound nuts i know i need advice!!
Arch Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 If your not ok with it then don't do it, because the image of someone ****ing your wife will burn into your memory forever.
Darth Vader Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 So..... What are you getting out of this whole deal, I mean you never even did anything! I'm not for this kinda thing, but..... I'm sure you see where I'm going with this thing, or whatever .......
hurtzdonit Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Being as this is my second post, I doubt I have a leg to stand on. And I may be a little old fashioned, but I don't get how any man (I'll stick with Alpha males here) could find it exciting the watch their woman getting it on with another man. I've got my ideas why, but I'm not a professional so I would spout off here. But will say, there ain't no way I'm watching my wife with another man and remaining married to her. Hurt
i_am_over_here Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 (edited) the only way i can imagine really giving my blessing to such a fantasy would be if i had a "demanding" fantasy of my own that might require some "collateral" to fulfill. forgive the pig in me but: woman on woman? mind if i live vicariously through you...? mind you - i don't really endorse such a lifestyle - as much fun as i'm sure it would be - probably too much unexpected/unhealthy baggage... Edited March 22, 2008 by i_am_over_here
Cobra_X30 Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 i really dont know how to take it 1 part of me it would seem exciting to watch but the other part dosent want to see it, but i dont want to deny my wife her fantasy.. i sound nuts i know i need advice!! Read posts of guys who have been through this before! From what I've seen one liked it, one didnt. However they both ended in disaster if memory serves. First guy loved it... but his wife started up and affair with the other guy behind his back. Started just like your situation. Second guy came too quick... had zero fun... and regretted every minute. Personally, your call, but just go into it with open eyes as to what could happen!
Lishy Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Well I would advise that you just film it, and spend the time she is screwing some other guy on the phone to your solicitor to find out how much the divorce will cost! Surely your marriage is not that bad that the wife needs some stranger to ejaculate up her? Think about this more carefully is my advise!
Lizzie60 Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 The only way to find out is to try it.. Maybe it won't be as much 'fun' as you fantasize it.. but who knows.. until you try it.. right? She might prefer the other guy in the end.....
Curmudgeon Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 She might prefer the other guy in the end..... Which end?
sugarsoul Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 If you are not sure, then you shouldn't dive into this situation so fast. How about first watch her give a blow job to another guy instead? Or better yet, have her do it to both of you at the same time? or watch him massage her while she wears a sexy outfit? You can take lots of pictures and videotape it too~ those are all possibilities to have fun without going all the way
shadowofman Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Just chiming in to express my interest in such things as well. There are a ton of men out there into the whole "hotwife" thing.
jmargel Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 If you have reservations then that is enough to put the brakes on this. There are swinging forums that talk about these issues with people who have experienced this. When you are dealing with a 'single' guy you are looking for major problems. Not only are you risking your marriage, but your wife and you are risking STDs from some guy you met on the internet.
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