LeeLoo Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 What is the difference between an emotional affair and being "just friends" with someone of the opposite sex?
JamesM Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 What is the difference between an emotional affair and being "just friends" with someone of the opposite sex? If this is related to the cuddle question, then your cuddle fest is cheating IMO. As I said in that thread, any relationship or activity that is kept from the significant other while in a committed relationship is cheating. An emotional affair is when the person becomes as important or usually more important than the person with whom you are in a committed relationship. If you feel you must defend this friendship because it appears to be more, then it probably is an EA. If you cannot share all conversations and activities about this "just friendship" with your SO, then it has crossed the line and is an EA. And above all, if you have to ask the question, then it probably is an EA.
whichwayisup Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 What is the difference between an emotional affair and being "just friends" with someone of the opposite sex? Being "Just friends" with someone of the opposite sex and each of you are in a relationship, or one of you are in a relationship has to be open and include your spouse(s). Any 'feelings' in the sense of allowing it to grow into something else, relying on that person for emotional needs IS an emotional affair. A true platonic friendship one doesn't cross the boundries or allow anything to happen. And, the friendship isn't hidden away in secret.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 What is the difference between an emotional affair and being "just friends" with someone of the opposite sex? "just friends" = what you are with friends of the same sex usually - no sexual or romantic undertones at all "emotional affair" = falling in love without physically sealing the deal (though unless the two physically can't be in each other's presence, it almost always leads to the physical component How many people in affairs do you see who said 'we were friends' and invariably that 'friendship' included flirting, etc? - that is not 'friends', that is 'biding your time until you sleep together' - that is why you can't go back to being 'friends' when it is over - you weren't really 'friends' to begin with. Do a google search on "ladder theory" if you want some further insight.
Meaplus3 Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 If this is related to the cuddle question, then your cuddle fest is cheating IMO. As I said in that thread, any relationship or activity that is kept from the significant other while in a committed relationship is cheating. An emotional affair is when the person becomes as important or usually more important than the person with whom you are in a committed relationship. If you feel you must defend this friendship because it appears to be more, then it probably is an EA. If you cannot share all conversations and activities about this "just friendship" with your SO, then it has crossed the line and is an EA. And above all, if you have to ask the question, then it probably is an EA. So well put James. LeeLoo, I was just wondering.. do you think your in an Emotional Affair? AP:)
reliance Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 To me an emotional affair with someone is more than just being friends, its everything that a couple would do except being intimate.
compassion42 Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 To me an EA is a close friendship with a desire for more. Like someone else said, it includes all the emotions of a "regular" affair but doesn't have the physical thing going on(yet). There is a very fine line that is bound to be crossed if the EA lasts for too long.
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