Need someone to knock some sense into my head...

[iwanttolive]

I think i got played by a gorgeous guy. This is because he showed

 

I don't know whats best to describe my frustration. I feel so disappointed wif myself. I'm already 26, how could i let myself fall to this? And it kills my confidence. He's like something unattainable and it made me crazy. I feel that i'm not desirable.. i know i should NOT, but i keep comparing myself to his ex-es and how they could get him and i can't... i know it's childish, just please help to talk me out of this... I'll really appreciate it...

[brenda collins]

how did this guy play you?? need more info before i can attempt to help you.

[AdrianaLima]

You didn't complete the second sentence that you started. So I'm a bit lost.

[iwanttolive]

I clicked submit without finishing the first para... This is because he showed such tender affection, asked me to be his gf.. We had such a wonderful time, such loving kisses and hugs. And then he just disappeared, totally indifferent when i contacted him...

[AdrianaLima]

Well, don't think that you are undesirable because some loser just up and left you. You will find someone who will understand and appreciate your worth. But don't down talk yourself. By the way, how long have the two of you been seeing one another?

[brenda collins]

how long were you together for? did he make all the moves, was he the one chasing you, asking you out on dates?? also did u sleep with him? And if so how long into the relationship did this happen? The reason I ask these questions, is that sometimes, guys pursue you like mad up until the point where either you sleep with them or they become aware how much you like them. For some guys, not all it is all about the chase, they see you as a prize, once they have won that prixe they can often dissapear as for them they have won and there is nothing left to pursue...

[carhill]

OP, next time try, being aware of the "gorgeous" part, to focus on the inside stuff.

 

I'll opine this all happened very rapidly, as most relationships based on the outside do, as it's easier to discern.

 

So, mindful of your good fortune sharing some tender hugs and kisses, proceed onward

[iwanttolive]

We started courting for only about 1 mth... And no i din sleep wif him... Hard to resist a gorgeous guy who sweet-talked, thats y im so mad at myself.. I mean although i din fall head over heel like when i was younger, still... Plus i thot there was deeper qualities, we were really addicted talking to each other until the wee hours of the morning...

 

I feel he's stringing me. He was cold after our wonderful date. My frens and some people on this forum, told me to back off an let him hunt. So i did. Then he said sorry he's been very tired. Yesterday he asked on msn if i realised ive been very cold to him. So i told him, no... i was afraid to disturb him since he was so busy... Then he logged off suddenly, din return my text, din return my call for one day. And just now he said "am fine, how have u been?"

[iwanttolive]

So a question popped in my mind.. How is it other gals could find someone who luv them with all their hearts? In my past 4 r/s, i feel i gave more to my ex-es... I watched in envy... one of my frens had an affair twice and her bf took her back.. another of my frens, her bf bought a chanel bag for her which cost a few grands.. not that im materialistic, i just wonder, what is wrong wif me? why is it no man luv me with all their hearts? it's not that i'm bad-looking or boring or dull.. so why?