wonderinwhatsup Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 I don't know why but this morning has been worse than usual for me. I can't stop thinking about all that me and my ex shared over our year and a half relationship. I keep wondering why she contacts me every so often, and I can't get the thought of her screwing her new boyfriend out of my mind. Some days are just worse than others I guess. Sorry ya'll I just had to vent.
wareagle Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 I know how you feel, I to woke up this morning feeling awful. It's a cycle we go through some days are good some day's are worse than other. I can't stop thinking about what she is doing, who she is with, if she is banging someone else if she is is she thinking about me while she's banging him. I so want to know what's going on in her head, but I keep telling myself that it's better that I don't know cause if she is banging someone else that would hurt more than anything. It's been almost two weeks since she dumped me, I have found that I am getting better at keeping myself busy, not near where I need to be but I am getting better. I am a firm believer in time heals all wounds. It's hard dude but keep your head up. Coming hear has really helped me out. There is great advice to be said on here, and remember, there are other people out there who are going through the same thing.
Belkin Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 (edited) Cool, a venting place. It will be exactly two months since the breakup for me tomorrow. I don't have to wonder about her "banging" someone else, I know very well who she is banging and I know very well when that is happening (every night now; her room, just opposite mine in the student accommodation we live in, is always closed at nights.) I try to ignore her as much as I can, but whenever I catch a glimpse of her it hurts like hell. What's worse is when I see her cuddling the guy she dumped me for, as she was doing 2 hrs ago during our exams pause. At least we're not in the same year so we don't share classes... It gets better over time, that's sure, I can now spend some time without thinking about her. But I know that each passing day is one more day she spends with him, one more night she sleeps with him. I just saw them passing before my window. Apparently she was quite depressed after her exam; he was consoling her... And now they're having a "get better ****" in his room. Force yourself not to think about explicitly sexual acts between her and the other guy, nothing good can come of it. Edited March 21, 2008 by Belkin
Shindig Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 I routinely advise people who are in the throes of breakup anguish to keep busy. Find a new hobby or explore an old one. It's hard but you won't think about her and her new guy if you're thinking about going to that rock climbing class or thinking about how hot the instructor is. Not only will you lament over your loss lying on the couch watching Days of our Lives (or however it is your cope) but you won't meet anyone new. Whenever I'm getting over some jerk, I'll schedule something new (last time it was karate... punching things made me feel SO much better) and when it comes time to go I say to myself... I know when I get there I'll have fun, I just have to get off my hiney. I never regret going to my karate class (even after 8 months of twice weekly classes)... even when someone trounces me or I accidentally get punched.
bejshermanoaks Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 you arent alone man..I miss my girl like no one can know. Im a grown man, and its been 6 weeks, and last night I cried like a baby all alone in my bedroom. Its hard man; so hard. I cried cause i miss her, cried cause im alone and because i feel like i failed. i should have been more attentive to her needs..However, I have to believe the universe has a plan and itll work out.. My guess is she contacts you cause she misses you--however, if its hard for you to stay in touch, dont--but if you can handle it, maybe one day you will get back together because you were able to tolerate the contact now. stay busy and date... Ill send as much love towards you man..peace bro..
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted March 22, 2008 Author Posted March 22, 2008 I try to take it one day at a time and that seems to help a lot. I wish that that I knew if her contact had anything to do with her missing me or if she was just stringing me a long. We had a long relationship and she matured a lot over that time, shes 19 now. I know shes young and we both have a lot of growing to do, but I just cant see myself without her for the longterm, even though she has a new boyfriend.
Kman21 Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Damn, man I feel you about the whole sex thing, I just try really hard not to think about it. Just keep yourself occupied. We are all young I mean she just entered college right? For mines she said she matured and changed but this was just recently, I mean shes still young and these feelings are new to her, it will get stable for her sooner or later, its just the dawn of her adulthood, she has much to experience and see the real world. Lets both hang in there...your not the only one going through this.
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