Ruby Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Hi I need some advice I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and lately things are great, but I do have one problem and I need some help with how to proceed He has set this trend for telling me he will be around that evening to stay the night So I offer to do him dinner, he comes around and has his dinner, a few hours later he tells me he has to go and measure a job/meet a pal quickly/ go home for something then he phones me and tells me he isnt coming back as he is at home and tired. And sometimes he tells me he will call and doesn't. He then rings in the morning and tells me he fell asleep. He has done this every night this week, I told him I am not happy when he eats and then goes home but he makes excuses for it. How do I deal with this I am sure he is not cheating, I know he loves me so how do I handle this?
Lishy Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 You should talk to him about it, and consider not cooking for him anymore?
compassion42 Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 If this is something new he has started, then something must be up. Perhaps he is struggling with some job related issue that is adding stress to his life? Definitely talk to him. You know he loves you and is faithful but does he know how this makes you feel? Let him know you care and that you want to be able to talk about problems like this.
OpenBook Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 He is lying to you and using you as a free dinner and booty-call. That's not much of a BF. And you're letting him get away with it. Cut him off, both in the kitchen and the bedroom. And don't discuss it with him (you've already tried that). Next time he calls to arrange it, tell him you're busy. If he starts whining, tell him you have to get off the phone. He'll get the message.
Kiss Dont Miss Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 Tell him you want to spend more time with him. What about suggesting him to "measure a job" at your place, to call a pal instead of meeting him, etc. Talk to him about your feelings and frustration, I'm sure he has something to say or explain.
AussieJack Posted March 24, 2008 Posted March 24, 2008 Hi He has done this every night this week, I told him I am not happy when he eats and then goes home but he makes excuses for it. How do I deal with this ? ? Tell him that he needs to wash his plate before he splits next time otherwise NO desert.
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