kikikiwi Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 I haven't been in the dating scene for a while now, so I don't know if this is normal or not. I met this guy at a club. I met him for about 15min (he seemed like he was having a good time w/me...) before I had to leave. He asked me if he can put his number in my phone. My phone was in the car as I dont bring anything but my ID and some cash in my pocket. I told him this and he pulled out his phone to put my number in. My question is, why would he ask to put his number in my cell if he obviously had a cell in his pocket and could just ask for my number instead? Is it bc he doesnt really like me or something? It has also been 3 days and he hasn't called yet. aaaaaaahhh! thanks for inputs!
MsJJ Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Was he drunk? Or maybe he was just trying to be "cute"
Green Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 probably just trying to be cute, in his mind he probably feels its a smooth thing to do, or less likely to get the dreaded NO!
xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Does it really matter at this point? Stop waiting for him to call. It's frustrating and not worth your time.
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Ball is on your side now, thats why. If he was any good he would know that you wont call. Instead you will analyze, analyze, analyze, analyze until it fizzle out. Thats why guys should ask for a number not give one. It may feel like polite/no-pressure thing to do but it wont work - girls are not able take the risks/decide/act.
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Does it really matter at this point? Stop waiting for him to call. It's frustrating and not worth your time. He is the one waiting to be called And I hope he gets the same advice about "not worth of his time".
xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 He is the one waiting to be called And I hope he gets the same advice about "not worth of his time". She never got his number though.... Besides if he was interested, why wait three days? Most likely he was drunk and totally forgot he got her # in the first place.
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 She never got his number though.... Besides if he was interested, why wait three days? Most likely he was drunk and totally forgot he got her # in the first place. Oops my bad.
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Ball is on your side now, thats why. If he was any good he would know that you wont call. Instead you will analyze, analyze, analyze, analyze until it fizzle out. Thats why guys should ask for a number not give one. It may feel like polite/no-pressure thing to do but it wont work - girls are not able take the risks/decide/act. Wake up, Joe. Read it again, you dumb sh*t.
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Wake up, Joe. Read it again, you dumb sh*t. All right. Just dont call me that or I wont wash you and feed you for next month and I will smoke you to death. Capisch?
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 My question is, why would he ask to put his number in my cell if he obviously had a cell in his pocket and could just ask for my number instead? Is it bc he doesnt really like me or something? It has also been 3 days and he hasn't called yet. aaaaaaahhh! thanks for inputs! As I said. It is considered polite think to do like you are free to decide on your own - no pressure of him calling you. 3 days. It is the rule. The spell can be broken only when the girl is warm, enthusiastic and there is no chance she might see you as a needy, clingy, wussy.
Lyssa Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Did he get your name? I wonder if he keyed it in correctly...
xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 As I said. It is considered polite think to do like you are free to decide on your own - no pressure of him calling you. 3 days. It is the rule. The spell can be broken only when the girl is warm, enthusiastic and there is no chance she might see you as a needy, clingy, wussy. I doubt it... they met in a club... She said it was just a guy that came up to her and asked to give her his nimber. When guys do that they might just be looking for an easy score....
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 I doubt it... they met in a club... She said it was just a guy that came up to her and asked to give her his nimber. When guys do that they might just be looking for an easy score.... In that case he would certainly adapt another tactic. You dont give out your # when you want easy score, you drunk her(OPTIONAL), grab her, kiss her and call a taxi. In every club there are like 2 and 1/2 girls who are there to be easy scored. 70 girls want to be easy scored but just dont know how to do it so it doesnt look like or end up they were easy scored and the rest is cleaning toilets or puking to them. What is all the club/bar bias?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 In that case he would certainly adapt another tactic. You dont give out your # when you want easy score, you drunk her(OPTIONAL), grab her, kiss her and call a taxi. In every club there are like 2 and 1/2 girls who are there to be easy scored. 70 girls want to be easy scored but just dont know how to do it so it doesnt look like or end up they were easy scored and the rest is cleaning toilets or puking to them. What is all the club/bar bias? Because it happens more often than not that a girl gets played if they're not careful. I'm just saying why play # card if you're not gonna follow through?
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Because it happens more often than not that a girl gets played if they're not careful. I'm just saying why play # card if you're not gonna follow through? Magic of the moment? # collector? Who knows. Just a note: Girls dont get played in clubs because of the all the prejudice - they have shields high and ready. It is actually guys who get played. But they cant get pregnant.
Shindig Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Does it really matter at this point? Stop waiting for him to call. It's frustrating and not worth your time. This is why I made a policy of not giving out my number. I tell people who ask that I don't give out my number but they can give me theirs. I like when the ball is in my court. It reduces my anxiety over waiting...
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 This is why I made a policy of not giving out my number. I tell people who ask that I don't give out my number but they can give me theirs. I like when the ball is in my court. It reduces my anxiety over waiting... Do you have a penis?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Do you have a penis? Look, as much as I try to understand men, I know for a fact that most men do not like talking on the phone. If you skim through some of the past threads, it's been expressed by the male members of LS that they much prefer texting. So giving out our number to guys is just irrelevant. We'll probably get a call in the beginning, but afterwards, it'll be straight texting.
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Look, as much as I try to understand men, I know for a fact that most men do not like talking on the phone. If you skim through some of the past threads, it's been expressed by the male members of LS that they much prefer texting. So giving out our number to guys is just irrelevant. We'll probably get a call in the beginning, but afterwards, it'll be straight texting. We hate to call. But you hate it more to call (the first time...then you love to babbling forever thats for sure). And someone has to do it. So its us. I call for first time to make sure she wont flake. After that I text because : a) it is cheaper, b) I cant be driven into pointless conversation or being questioned, c) I ONLY set up a person to person meeting - no texting battless Bottom line: I have to get girls number. When I give her mine, even if she is interested there is HUGE chance she wont call for whatever hormone-short circuit-reason.
Shindig Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Do you have a penis? Only metaphorically... but I'm sure it's bigger than yours.
Author kikikiwi Posted March 22, 2008 Author Posted March 22, 2008 thanks for ur responses! so he did end up calling today (day 4)--said he was busy w/school (hes a pharm student). during our conversation he did not ask me out, but did end it w/ "ill talk to you later." ...so, should i wait until he calls me again for the 2nd phone call, or am I supposed to be switching off (doing the calling next time) since I have his number now? DanielMadr--you are right; I would probably overanalyze things (like how im doing now) to the point where I probably wouldnt even end up callling...
Star Gazer Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Guys do this so that they can slyly call their own phone super quick from your phone so that they can capture your number.
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