pinkrazr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Alrite. I have a friend of mine. we met about 12 years ago. when we were teenagers. we were both in a horrible time in our lives, we met in day hospital. an outpatient program for teens with depression and the like. I always have had many friends, and she. only had me. ever. I liked her, she was a great girl, just hated people. Over the years, I got my life back together, went back to finish high school, took my meds and actually had a job for a full year now. (i know that sounds so awful, but i had many problems with anxiety). I've kept in touch all the time with her, we went out all the time so on and so on. eventually I was working more and didnt have time to see her. i had my other friends as well, and she didnt drive, i was always picking her up, taking her places, everything. So to her, i guess because she had no one else, took it like I basically screwed off on her, and she treats me like shes last place to everyone else. we each have a blog wich we post our rants and whatnot. and one of my rants was about a girl at work who really dislikes me. my post basically said "Dear girl, what the hell is your problem. dont get all up on me because i'm happy with my life" (this girl at my work is 6 months preg and talks to me like her life is over, and because I have a positive outlook on mine.... she assumed I was a snarky b****). WELL. my friend read my post.. I'm assuming thinking it was about her. because she posted this in hers; "Maybe if you took your head out of your ass and paid attention to the people around you, you would realize there was something wrong. But I guess that's too much to ask and really I shouldn't be surprised. You've never acted like much of a friend. There's always something/someone more important and when they're not around then you pay attention...right? Or you just play dumb and forget. Yeah that's what I thought. Maybe try being a better friend next time. And seriously, get the f**k over yourself." My jaw dropped. I've done nothing but cater to her, and she thinks i'm posting some sublimal thing about her?! and out with this horrible thing?!! I dont prance around thinking i'm better than half the world, I have terrible self esteem... I brought this post up to her and she said "well what the F*** was I supposed to think, you could have said it was about a co worker". and talked to me like I was a big bully to her or something! She totally ignored the fact that I was livid over what she said, i was so hurt. i didnt deserve that! I camt be with her 24/7! I dont know.... i dont think this is honestly a good friend. I sure as hell didnt trash her, I helped her as much as I could, I'm just exhausted, she doesnt want to help herself. she still doesnt have a job, or want one. she wants to live off welfare. but thats her, all the power to her. I do hope she gets better sometime. i worry about her. but after this post I read from her, i feel like i was just a punching bag. any thoughts? much appreciated for reading thanks.
MsJJ Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Sweety, that is not a friend. She was out of line for saying that to you. I have experienced that there are those who are your true friends, and then those who are there for dishonest reasons. It seems to me that she is jealous and angry that you have your life together. Rather than her getting her life together, I guess she thinks its easier to trash you bc you did. If she spend that same energy on getting herself together rather than being angry or jealous, maybe she would be a happy person too. I know its hurtful and shocking when ppl lash out like that, but I have learned they are just angry that they don't have what you have. Misery loves company. I think for the circumstance that you and her met, it was good for that time being. But now things have changed. You don't need such negativity or immaturity in your life. Take care
Author pinkrazr Posted March 21, 2008 Author Posted March 21, 2008 I think you have it totally right. after I read your response, i remembered the times where I was envious of everyday people, and didnt have much of a positive outlook on them. i didnt verbalize it. but i'm glad i didnt. it wasnt going to make anyone feel better. I guess I just have a caring nature, and I felt so hurt she said that after all I did for her. I'm not going to be a part of her anger anymore, I put too much blood sweat and tears into getting my life together.
shanny Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Did you approach her and tell her that your post was not about her? I would be curious to hear what she says. Sounds like she f-ed up.
Author pinkrazr Posted March 25, 2008 Author Posted March 25, 2008 Did you approach her and tell her that your post was not about her? I would be curious to hear what she says. Sounds like she f-ed up. yes i did, I told her my post was about someone i worked with. her response was "well what the F*** was I supposed to think!" and basically made me feel like I put her in a position for her to lash at me!
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