J.LO Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 My friend needs serious help.But she needs to hear it from other ppl, so heres the story. She dated Tom for 3 years...off and on. He went to the military for a few months and came back instead of going there and it was his dream but he wanted to be with her instead so he quit.Over the time tho, they're sexually active and she says she likes it, but sometimes she tells him no and he does it anyways and she cries. He's controlling, and doesnt want her around friends, and the only time he really wants to see her is when he thinks he's goin to lose her to another man. She cheated on him once and he for gave her. She seen 2 other guys, but didnt have any big romance going on..it didnt last. But now she is going to maybe date a friend of mine named Lukas. Lukas likes her a lot, but is upset cuz she wont stop letting her ex (Tom) in her house. Tom is always there, she even ells Lukas how she is going to date tom again if she ends up not going out with Lukas. Lukas tells me about all this stuff, and I feel bad because I dont kno what to do. If i tell him to just let my friend go (sarah), then she'll be mad at me, and i kno this is not my business but they brought me into it and I'm friends with them..best friends, so what am i supposed to do? I told her to stay away from her ex. He hits her, is rough, and he holds her down on the bed if the phone rings cuz he doesnt want her talkin on it. He hates me and I have never did anything to that man. I was nice to him but he thinks I shouldnt be talkin to her. Sarah told me she doesnt love him, that she loves Lukas. If she loves Lukas soo much then why is she letting Tom around all the time. They go out to eat, and hes always at her house now. But she;s tryin to get with Lukas. I asked her ehy bother dating Tom if she dont love him and she said well I may as well. She is the type that would rather go for what you can settle for instead of having someone you love alot because you can get hurt. But her ex treats her like ****. Thry have a abusive realtionship. ANyways thanks and advice would be greatly appreciated. On her and what you tihnk she should do.
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