zrp20 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 so here we go! Me and my ex decided to break up last weekend after 8 months, things were getting bad we were spending too much time together and just arguing about stupid things. Whats confused me is he said 'We shouldn't talk for a few weeks, then after we can start our relationship again. I still want to be friends and hang out,i dont ever want to loose your friendship' also his profile online still has one picture of me and him together but hes set to single and deleted all the other pics of us. What i dont get is, does he want time apart then try and get back together? Or did he just miss word what he said and ment he wants to cool off and then just be friends? I was really bad and text him the other day and he got mad and asked me why cant we just have time apart when this is what ruined our relationship in the first place. I totally understand and know what hes saying is true but when i see him online my belly flips and i think 'is he going to message me? why isnt he messaging me?' which is totally stupid. But I said sorry and he said he understood. Also, hes talking to alot of girls and asking them to come out this weekend which is making me feel sick what is going on in his head? i dont get what he wants. any ideas?
Rogue Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 You're too clingy and that is a real turn-off to both men and women. It's over; he's being nice saying that he wants to maintain a friendship.
Author zrp20 Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 I know its over but hes making it seem like theres a chance we could try again. thats what i'm confused about.
City_girl Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 He seems to be trying to stop you from freaking out whilst breaking free. I know this is hard to hear but that's what I am reading from what you have written. He knows you will freak if he tells you it's off. He simply doesn't want to deal with the drama and your texting him is telling him he's exactly right. You have to do what you have to do but you have to deal with the repercussions of the actions such as the text message. I'ts so hard to control our emotions when things like this happen. You will calm down eventually and move on. It seems to be over. You aren't clingy, your emotions are just all over the place, one man's clingy is another man's view of total love and bliss. Don't change who you are and don't reject yourself just because he has rejected you. He's not the only man in the world.....
Author zrp20 Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 thank you that really made me feel better
loveralone Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 I know its over but hes making it seem like theres a chance we could try again. thats what i'm confused about. It's a guy thing...They do that so they don't have to look like the "bad guy" in the situation. My guy did the same thing to me....that was the WORST part of the whole breakup! (Seriously - I just found a blog today that I shared on another thread, but I think you should check it out, too: Why Can’t a Dumping Man Leave Well Enough Alone? )
LuCidiTy Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 to add to that, i think you'd be stronger if you didn't look at his profile (wherever that is) for a while...delete his name from your messenger so you don't see when he's online, stuff like that. just walk away from the computer for a while. it's hard at first but then very freeing and it gives you time to really think instead of obsessing and waiting and wondering.
cho Posted March 22, 2008 Posted March 22, 2008 Since a lack of space was an issue, then give him that. Do you want to reconcile? Was it real love for the both of you? If he loved you, then I think he will miss you at some point. You will talk again. Whether you get back together depends on how you take it from there.
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