loveralone Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 (edited) (There's a LOT more to this story, but this is the just the readers digest version...if you want/need more background info in order to help me out, please read my other post - it pretty much sums it up in the first message and the second to last reply: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t147277/) I'm on day 4 (EEK!) of NC. Monday was bad, Tuesday was HORRIBLE, yesterday was bad until late last night... I swear, something just clicked in my head last night and I moved from sad and frantic to calm yet angry. I've spent the last 24 days hoping and praying that this man would realize that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him, and he would fight for me to come back to him (pretty egotistic of me, hu?)! Instead, he's been a complete a-hole, kicking me when I'm already down by telling me about all the "wonderful" dates he's been going on, and getting ANGRY with me when I got my feelings hurt...So last night it kind of hit me that this is not the type of man that I need to waist any more tears on. His true colors are showing, and it's pretty ugly. So, this is where I need some HELP!!!! He sent me a text message this morning that says: "Are you going home* for Easter? Maybe we can exchange things on your way back? If you can't take the bike, we can work out another time." (* "home" would be my parents house. The x lives 40 miles East of me, and my parents live another 40 miles or so past him, so his house would be on my way back) I'm actually not going to my parents house on Sunday, and even if I was, I don't think that I would want to see him right now. I'm feeling strong emotionally, but if I see him, that could take me a few steps backwards. On the other hand, I'm afraid that even if I do wait to see him, it's still going to be just as difficult and I'm going to have to go through the heartbreak all over again! I haven't sent him anything back yet, and I'm hoping that I'll get some good advice quickly so I can get a feel for the best approach to take.... Edited March 20, 2008 by loveralone
SoStupid Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 (There's a LOT more to this story, but this is the just the readers digest version...if you want/need more background info in order to help me out, please read my other post - it pretty much sums it up in the first message and the second to last reply: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t147277/) I'm on day 4 (EEK!) of NC. Monday was bad, Tuesday was HORRIBLE, yesterday was bad until late last night... I swear, something just clicked in my head last night and I moved from sad and frantic to calm yet angry. I've spent the last 24 days hoping and praying that this man would realize that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him, and he would fight for me to come back to him (pretty egotistic of me, hu?)! Instead, he's been a complete a-hole, kicking me when I'm already down by telling me about all the "wonderful" dates he's been going on, and getting ANGRY with me when I got my feelings hurt...So last night it kind of hit me that this is not the type of man that I need to waist any more tears on. His true colors are showing, and it's pretty ugly. So, this is where I need some HELP!!!! He sent me a text message this morning that says: "Are you going home* for Easter? Maybe we can exchange things on your way back? If you can't take the bike, we can work out another time." (* "home" would be my parents house. The x lives 40 miles East of me, and my parents live another 40 miles or so past him, so his house would be on my way back) I'm actually not going to my parents house on Sunday, and even if I was, I don't think that I would want to see him right now. I'm feeling strong emotionally, but if I see him, that could take me a few steps backwards. On the other hand, I'm afraid that even if I do wait to see him, it's still going to be just as difficult and I'm going to have to go through the heartbreak all over again! I haven't sent him anything back yet, and I'm hoping that I'll get some good advice quickly so I can get a feel for the best approach to take.... Is your stuff that important you cant live without it.??? if the answer to this is yes then..... Have him send it! www.ups.com . Seriously, If you are trying to get over this man don't see him. You are exactly right this will bring you back 30 feet from where you started. Good Luck! I think you know what you need to do.
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I won't be just as difficult to see him as time passes. The more recent the break, the more it will hurt and set you back to see him. If you wait a while, it will likely hurt less. That's just the function of the human brain. Out of sight, out of mind.
LuCidiTy Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 i'd probably just not answer for now. or just text back once "that wouldn't be convenient" and quit.
Kman21 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I would just ignore it, I mean you have been doing great with NC, would you want to ruin it? Think about this for a sec if he is just doing a friendly gesture and you want him to come back, well what if he doesn't want to? Would you want to be hurt all over again? Plus do you really want this guy if you are seeing his true colors?
Author loveralone Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 Is your stuff that important you cant live without it.??? if the answer to this is yes then..... Have him send it! www.ups.com . I think I can live without most of my stuff for a little while (except my work clothes...I've lost a lot of weight, and he's got the only 2 pairs of pants that fit me anymore!!), I'm just tired of having to look at his crap every day...such a painful reminder! As for shipping it ups, there's no way...We both have big items that would cost way too much...He has all of my camping gear (some of it pretty expesive, some of it I could easily replace), my bike (which his best friend had the nerve to ask if he could take to give to his wife!!!), and other things that I'm sure I have forgotten about since the breakup. As for the things of his that I have - I have a rocking chair that we got at an auction that I was reapolstering for him, and a cocktail cabinet that he bought "for me" that was suppose to be for our house when we got married - don't want that anymore! (we collected mid-century modern furnature, and our goal was to one day open our own shop...) Those things are both sitting in my living room, and I don't have anywhere else to put them! As for the rest of the crap of his that I have, it's in a closet where I don't have to look at it.
Author loveralone Posted March 21, 2008 Author Posted March 21, 2008 Okay, so I didn't respond to him. I've made it through the day!!! WOOHOO! Today was a really good day for me, by the way...
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