Vertex Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Gut instincts are only seemingly led astray by further rationalization of the mind
Balthazar Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Audrey, I cannot answer from a woman's perspective; you as female, can. Trial, you are wise. We forgive much is she's hot; but then again, so do women. Vertex, truly spoken.
fishtaco Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 My gut feeling has led me to psycho chicks too many times. I've banned my gut feeling.
audrey_1 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Gut instincts are only seemingly led astray by further rationalization of the mind And in cases where this happens, doesn't that seem sad? Aren't you missing out on a potentially rewarding union if you "overthink" it to the point you no longer "feel" it? Seems tragic.
Kamille Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 My gut feeling has led me to psycho chicks too many times. I've banned my gut feeling. Good going on taking control of the situation fishtaco I've been all over the charts with gut-feelings vs grow on me. Both have happened to me. In my case it sometimes ends up being premonitions. When I moved for college, I started hanging out with the locals. They would talk about the people they went to high shcool with: "Remember the time when I ws with so and so did this and we did this and that?" There was this one guy, everytime they mentionned him, the first thought that came to mind was "ah yeah, I'm going to date him". I had never met or seen him and the stories didn't tell me much about his character. After 3 years of "ah yeah, I'm going to date him", I eventually met him. He was my first serious bf. A similar version of the same thing happened with my current bf, although in this case curiosity could explain it. People who had met him would ask me if I had met him yet since we work in the same field. I couldn't wait to meet him because I just knew something would happen between us. Boy was I happy when it turned out he was goodlooking! But maybe these are just self-fulfilling prophecies...
Author spookie Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 See, if the gut instinct thing applied to me only romantically, i would be more wary, but even with friends, with all my closest, it was friendship at first sight. My gay bff and I were inseparable after the first day of freshman orientation... and at that point he and i didnt even KNOW anything about one another (I thought he was trying to DATE me, and I was TOTALLY turned off). Same with my staright girl bff... I just knew. With every perosn I just knew, that I felt deeply about righ toff the bat, it worked out... it's like a 1-1 function with perfect correlation. excuse my drunkeness. =(. I think either i feel completely at ease with someone right away, or I never do.
Author spookie Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 ps i love you guys. :love::love: y'all have no idea. i wish we could have a huge ls cocktail party with lots of alcohol. we should do that sometime!!!
Author spookie Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 i'ma go take off my clothes off 4 monee now yall
backspn Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 I won't disagree with this at all, especially the love v. lust at first sight, although attraction can be instantaneous, where true caring, needs to grow over time. Unless they give up cause the "spark" has gone.
Kamille Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Unless they give up cause the "spark" has gone. Oh no! Don't tell me that girl you were dating said that?
blind_otter Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 See, if the gut instinct thing applied to me only romantically, i would be more wary, but even with friends, with all my closest, it was friendship at first sight. My gay bff and I were inseparable after the first day of freshman orientation... and at that point he and i didnt even KNOW anything about one another (I thought he was trying to DATE me, and I was TOTALLY turned off). Same with my staright girl bff... I just knew. With every perosn I just knew, that I felt deeply about righ toff the bat, it worked out... it's like a 1-1 function with perfect correlation. excuse my drunkeness. =(. I think either i feel completely at ease with someone right away, or I never do. Wow, I am absolutely the same way - every person I've been close friends with I knew immediately that we would be friends. I've met many people who were great, nice people - but there was no "connection" so I knew we wouldn't be friends.
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 I dont do anal, so you wont have gut instinct with me, though. Shame.
DanielMadr Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Good going on taking control of the situation fishtaco I've been all over the charts with gut-feelings vs grow on me. Both have happened to me. In my case it sometimes ends up being premonitions. When I moved for college, I started hanging out with the locals. They would talk about the people they went to high shcool with: "Remember the time when I ws with so and so did this and we did this and that?" There was this one guy, everytime they mentionned him, the first thought that came to mind was "ah yeah, I'm going to date him". I had never met or seen him and the stories didn't tell me much about his character. After 3 years of "ah yeah, I'm going to date him", I eventually met him. He was my first serious bf. A similar version of the same thing happened with my current bf, although in this case curiosity could explain it. People who had met him would ask me if I had met him yet since we work in the same field. I couldn't wait to meet him because I just knew something would happen between us. Boy was I happy when it turned out he was goodlooking! But maybe these are just self-fulfilling prophecies... You probably love the story characters. Have you seen Night of the living dead? Nice story
Little Shy Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 All of my long term relationships began with instant attraction/gut instinct. I believe a lot of us women are blessed with very strong, accurate gut instincts (AKA Women's intuition). I have the same stories as some of you have shared about hearing about someone, and just knowing you would like them when you met them, and other serendipitous sort of circumstances that eventually led to love. I have never, ever had the "grow on" thing happen to me. I think throughout the years, I have met some guys that were so great on paper, and were really attracted to me, and I have hazy recollections of giving a couple such guys some time to see if I "came around". I say hazy recollections, because I have to strain my brain to remember these men because they were so forgettable! Case in point, I guess I never came around! Interesting timing on this thread, as someone is currently trying to woo me for the 3rd time or so in the last 5 years. He just keeps popping into my life & trying to sweep me off my feet. He is in town right now trying to do the same. He is GREAT on paper, but no matter how often he takes me out to these great dinners, proposed to take me on trips, makes me laugh, I couldn't DREAM of making out with him. Ick. Maybe I should cancel our dinner plans this weekend, and cut him loose for good. He's never gonna grow on me! Too bad, as he could have really set me up! Who the hell wants to be set up by someone they can't even sleep with though?
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