beachlover Posted March 20, 2008 Share Posted March 20, 2008 I was with my ex off an on for a year and a half (I say off and on because we broke up 2 times during our relationship for what turned out to be stupid reasons). About a month ago I told him that we needed to find time for just us to hang out, we always ended up going out with our friends then passing out when we got home really late and one of us always had something to do when we got up. He was out of town for the majority of the next week for work so we finally got a chance to be alone the night before I went out of town for a weeks vacation. I told him how frustrated I was with never getting to hang out with just him and that I didn't want him to not take up offers on work trips because I wanted to see him. So 2 hours later we both decided that we shouldn't be together right now since he is busy with work and I might be moving out of state for school in a few months. When we went to leave he told me to call him when I got back from my trip but I when I got home I didn't want to talk to him thinking that I would just miss him even more, and I was doing pretty good then. Yesterday and today I can't stop thinking about him, I am driving myself crazy because I miss him so much. What do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author beachlover Posted March 20, 2008 Author Share Posted March 20, 2008 This is getting odd, my younger brother just called and my ex has been texting him that he wants to hang out with him because he's going to be in the town my brother goes to school in for work for the next few days. It's not even like they were friends, they met once when he went home with me to meet my family and my brother was only there for 3 hours. To my knowledge they haven't talked since then... until now. Link to post Share on other sites
kylewheat698 Posted March 20, 2008 Share Posted March 20, 2008 I think a lot of us on here would wish that our girlfriends felt the same way about us. If you were together for that long i'm sure he misses you to. I'd contact him and try to work it out. That's coming from someone who wants his girlfriend to come back to him though, lol Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 20, 2008 Share Posted March 20, 2008 OP, don't be available or check up on BF for awhile. He senses pursuit so is distant. Sounds like you have a fairly dramatic relationship (2 breakups for "stupid reasons"). Odds are he'll miss that high and look you up. In the meantime, hang with the girls and have fun! Link to post Share on other sites
Author beachlover Posted March 20, 2008 Author Share Posted March 20, 2008 I think a lot of us on here would wish that our girlfriends felt the same way about us. If you were together for that long i'm sure he misses you to. I'd contact him and try to work it out. That's coming from someone who wants his girlfriend to come back to him though, lol I don't think anything can be worked out between him and I right now, he is still traveling 70% of the time for work and I am still waiting to see if I got into school in another state for the fall. Neither of us are going to give either one of those things up right now, I suppose if I don't end up moving for school we might be able to try it again, but I may not know for 5 more months where I am going to be. OP, don't be available or check up on BF for awhile. He senses pursuit so is distant. Sounds like you have a fairly dramatic relationship (2 breakups for "stupid reasons"). Odds are he'll miss that high and look you up. In the meantime, hang with the girls and have fun! Our breakups were because I was being insecure when it came to his ex, they were basically because of the lack of communication between us and they were both in the first 6 months of our relationship. We learned a lot from that and our communication (and my insecurity issues) got a lot better during the last year. I have no intention of contacting him and I haven't been checking up on him at all (surprisingly!), I was originally posting more to vent than anything but now I am wondering what his motive for contacting my brother is, he knows that I talk to my brother almost every day and he should know my brother would tell me. Link to post Share on other sites
wvhenson Posted March 21, 2008 Share Posted March 21, 2008 Hang in there. Im sure with that amount of time I would go with my gut feeling inspired by my heart. I think humans can pretty much figure if the break up was lasting or short term. My ex broke up with me a week ago...not for bad reasons at all, but just "i dont know if this is going anywhere" type of thing. We were not dramatic people or anything..nothing was wrong. Just that. I helped her so much mentally, spiritually, to believe in herself and financially. I was so good to her. I just wonder if the one who breaks up with you thinks and misses me also? I sure know my heart is empty and think of them so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author beachlover Posted March 22, 2008 Author Share Posted March 22, 2008 The worst part is I know that it's not going to work out for us right now, neither of us is going to give up what we have going right now (his work, my school) to make it work right now. I know I need to move on and if it's going to work out with him we will get back together when we both have stable lives. It's been 3 weeks and I can't get him off my mind, everything reminds me of him, I find myself wanting to tell him things that happened that day, I get bored and I want to call him just so I can smile for a few minutes. This sucks! I miss him, I think I may have really loved him (or still do:confused:) Link to post Share on other sites
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