moneymaker760 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 My girlfriend has been great. She lets me go out to the bars with my boys all night 4-5 times a week. She let me watch football all day. She nevers nags. She even bought me 4 super bowl tickets for christmas. She is super hot. She is a register nurse and our sex life is the bomb. Well i went to the clubs with my boys and gor drunk like always. I end up giving some girls my phone number. Well they call and my girlfriend found out. I really mess up. I thought she was ganna get all mad and emotional. But all she said was that she didn't want to make me do anything i didn't want to. She said she was leaving and that she didn't want to waste her times or mine. I really mess up i had it really good. Some of my boys even try to get with her. We not friends no more. But how can i get her back. I mean she is so great that i guess i never thought she would leave me. I guess i was wrong. How do i get her back? I'm shock. I was about to propose and now im dump. What do you guys think? Please help I really mess up I had the girl of my dream and i mess up.
LuCidiTy Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Beg All kidding aside...if she's not talking to you, what do you think you can do?
youngbuckkk Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I really don't see a way of you getting her back. You can beg and plead but that will prolly drive her further. You did mess up, no ifs ands or buts. She doesn't trust you anymore, with good reason.
MalachiX Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I can certainly identify with realizing you messed up a good thing and feeling very regretful. That said, I think that when you do screw up in a big way, it's important to find out why. In my case, it was a combination of deep depression, fear of commitment, and my un-healthy view of relationships thanks to my parents. So, I think you gotta ask yourself, and I'll ask if you won't, "WHY THE HELL DID YOU GIVE THE OTHER GIRLS YOUR NUMBER???" No, it's not as bad as cheating but if you're at a bar and you start dropping random chicks your number it's certainly a step beyond flirting and it's very understandable that she'd be upset. So honestly, you really should figure out why you did it before you try to make amends. To some extent, it seems that you view women as a bit of commodity (most of us do). You don't really talk about how you think your girl was the one for you or how you connected; just that she was hot and all the great stuff you got out of the relationship. It sounds like you were checking to see if there was a possible trade up and, while that may not be true, I'm sure that's how it seemed to her.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Why do you keep mentioning the things she does for you? Besides her physical attributes what is her personality like? How is she as a person? Seriously the whole time you were with her, you definitely took her for granted. My advice? Start apologizing. But don't beg. You'll only come off as clingy and needy.
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