wvhenson Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 So, after over a year I get told "I cant live the double life...i need time to think", etc.....Yea, I was seeing someone that is very unhappy with the guy they live with and wants out and away from him, but they are sorta stuck right now....living in the same house and nothing has happened with us yet like moving in and getting us going. They love me I know.....very honest and we are great together, but the guy she lives with found her cell records and I think scared the piss out of her and she calls me out of the blue saying that stuff. I really did alot for her, gave her hope and inspired her more than that guy does or ever did. I think with all her stuff at his place and they were together for 3 years...i think she is just confused and scared.....but nonthe less...my question is this.... Do you think that even if she broke up so to speak with me that she thinks about me and still has feelings? Up to the morning this happened she did....she said "i love you" and we were making plans to spend that week doing something. It just confuses me when break ups happen like if she is thinking of me and/or will miss doing the fun fun things we did. WE had absolutely no drama or anything...it just hurts thinking if she just totally drops my thought etc.....
twice_shy Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 I'm sure if she did break up with him that she'd think of you. And if you two got together, lived with each other, then the boredom would set in with her, you'd take each other for granted after being with the same person for an extended period of time, and she'd be in the same spot with you that she was in with the other guy. Of course you think you did more for her than the other guy did. you didn't have to put up with the day-to-day routine of living together. It was new and exciting for the both of you. Its pretty arrogant of you to think that you did more for her than her bf did. How do you know? Do you only now based on what she told you? At one point and time I'm sure her bf did the same things you did.
Author wvhenson Posted March 19, 2008 Author Posted March 19, 2008 Its not arrogant of me for thinking I did more. I DID. She moved to this town from another state to be with him. He controlled her. He changed on her. He fought and hit her. He even had her arrested! Yes, arrested for accidentally dropping her dog and the dog broke its leg and he called the cops and got an animal abuse charge. She drove off in her car....but it was registered in his name at the time...so he reported it stolen only to have her stopped by the law and go thru that mess. YES, I did do more for her. She feels trapped living there because that place holds all her belongings. SHe knows not many here in this city and thus I understand the stress she has. Thats why I was there for her. To show her someone doesnt put pressure on her, is there to raise her esteem and make her feel loved and as a human being again. She is a very honest person and it ended basically because of being scared, I THINK. he got on her for contact with me after opening her mail and then coming down on her. She called me after that and was upset. I know, WITH OUT ARROGANCE, I did more for her.
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