HokeyReligions Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 As many of you know, hubby and I have been practicing celibates for about 14 years. No problem. Our marriage is fine and dandy and we are happy about it. No mess or bother There are lots of celibate couples. After mom passed away we moved back into the master bedroom. Well, hubby did - I hated the bed we had and ended up sleeping on an inflatable mattress on the living room floor (less backaches for me). The other day we bought a new mattress. One of those Tempur Pedic beds. I still slept on the floor last night (I was up with a sick dog) but today (I took a day off from work) I took a nap on the new bed. Hubby did too - he usually naps during the day. Wellll, we woke up a little while ago and he got frisky! WTF?! I didn't know what the heck he was doing rubbing my back - I thought he was just doing that because he knew I had a backache before I laid down. Until his hand went a little further south than my back!! I sat up and looked at him and asked what he was doing and he smiled! I asked if he was getting frisky and he said 'maybe'!?! WTF?! Because of a MATTRESS?!?! We talked about it and we are OK now, but sheesh! After 14 years? I think I'll stick to the living room floor. I told him that and he laughed and said sorry - what was he thinking! He's not physically able to have sex anyway anymore. Must have been some dream he was having! LOL!
kimberlynn27 Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 What?!? No sex for 14 years?!? Holy crap! I get cranky after 2 days! Were you two with others? You had to be... no one can go 14 YEARS!!!
Author HokeyReligions Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 What?!? No sex for 14 years?!? Holy crap! I get cranky after 2 days! Were you two with others? You had to be... no one can go 14 YEARS!!! No. Never been married before and we've been together 25+ years and are very happy. Sex is not a priority to us, we don't need it to be happy and content with each other. Today was just a bit of a surprise - for both of us! I'm glad we decided on celibacy before he became disabled and unable. That would have been difficult if celibacy was thrust upon me (pun intended) because of a disability and not a choice.
DogMetal Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Well, that was an interesting story and good luck to you both! Are you going to get that type of mattress now, or avoid it?
Enema Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Wow that's bizarre. I can't imagine what the initial celibacy conversation would have been like!
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Just some curious questions: You are celibate, but are you and he ever intimate on other levels (kissing, touching, caressing, etc)? When he went south and wanted to get 'frisky', were you genuinely not interested in being touched like that, or would it have created more problems than anything else? Is your sexuality gone entirely? Does your body react to sexual things? It sounds like his body may not be willing or able, but his mind still sees you as a sexual being somewhere deep in his mind, even if it is latent. Do you have any feelings like that in your mind? What if he wanted to explore a more intimate relationship with you - a renaissance, so to speak? Celibacy was a decision, but people do change their minds - what if he changed his, and wanted some more intimate (not necessarily sexual) interaction with you? Sorry if it is prying, but it really is fascinating. Oh, and I'm envious of that mattress. I hope to one day own a Tempur Pedic.
whichwayisup Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 My sister and her husband have a Tempur Pedic mattress. I babysat my young nieces and we were reading books in the bed, at first I didn't like the feel of it, how I sunk in and it kind of moulded my body..But then after afew minutes I got used to it and got very cozy! My nieces got mad at me because I kept dozing off while reading to them! I blamed the mattress.
Mr. Lucky Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I'm glad we decided on celibacy before he became disabled and unable. That would have been difficult if celibacy was thrust upon me (pun intended) because of a disability and not a choice. Was it a joint decision or did you decide for the two of you? Mr. Lucky
Lookingforward Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 14 years of no sex ? <LF falls over then gets up and wanders off mumbling>
Ocean-Blue Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Hokey, I am intrigued! I too have the same questions as LB. I look forward to yours responses! Sometimes I think things would be so much simpler if sex weren't an issue.
Darth Vader Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 No. Never been married before and we've been together 25+ years and are very happy. Sex is not a priority to us, we don't need it to be happy and content with each other. Today was just a bit of a surprise - for both of us! I'm glad we decided on celibacy before he became disabled and unable. That would have been difficult if celibacy was thrust upon me (pun intended) because of a disability and not a choice. Depends on what the disability is, I mean, there are lots of meds out there for lots of stuff....... That is, unless it's not something that meds could treat! How have remained faithful, with no sex in 14 years!? The temptations! But, that's Very Good if you have remained true to your husband!!!!!:bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny:
ladyintights Posted March 21, 2008 Posted March 21, 2008 Good grief. whats the reason for this 14 year celibacy? i mean, come on!
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