kimberlynn27 Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 If he agrees to go to counselling and try to stop m/b all the time, should I be at his beckon call whenever he feels the urge? (Which is absolutely fine with me!) Or should he be trying to abstain all together to get his hormones regulated? What's the protocol on this type of thing?
daisygirl Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I don't know the answer, but I wanted to say that I hope MC helps you both!! Maybe the counselor will be able to answer??
TechDude Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 (edited) OK, I'll admit I might be just a little bit biased, but ... If he agrees to go to counselling and try to stop m/b all the time, should I be at his beckon call whenever he feels the urge? (Which is absolutely fine with me!) If it is fine with you, I don't see the problem. Is he asking a lot? I suspect that even if the frequency is high initially, it will probably settle down soon enough. I think the main point is that it is mutually enjoyable. If you are happy to oblige him, then great. Hopefully, in time and with MC, he will start to focus more on you than his own needs. Or should he be trying to abstain all together to get his hormones regulated? Is there any scientific basis for this? Given what he is trying to overcome, I really don't see how abstaining is going to help him - seems to me it is going to make it harder for him. After all, in the end, the goal is a shared experience, not just satisfying himself. What's the protocol on this type of thing?Ummm ... what ever works for you? Go for it like bunnies if you like ... but ... communicate with each other about what you do and don't like, so each of you learns how to make it more enjoyable for the other. Edited March 20, 2008 by TechDude
Author kimberlynn27 Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 Techdude, you are awesome. You always give great advice and I'm always interested to see what you think. Thank you bunches!
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