Patty Posted July 12, 2003 Posted July 12, 2003 I know how you feel.But if you call an emergency hotline,they will listen to you and be able to help you in whatever way they can.Thats what they are there for.So please call or go to the emergency room if you are feeling suicidal.Its the best thing you can do for yourself. Patty
Author danandlea Posted July 12, 2003 Author Posted July 12, 2003 wheres the emergency room? i just want my life bac with her, im not crazy, i just want her to see how much see means to me and how it will never change how i feel, i love her and after 3 years can she really stop loving me? what hurts is in entering the realtionship i was scared to commit, then idid and it was greta, now im so lonely
Patty Posted July 12, 2003 Posted July 12, 2003 Remember everyone cares about you,your family,your friends and even the people here at LoveShack.Click on the link below.Even I care too!Also talk to friends,family how your feeling or even a teacher or school councelour.Let them know whats going on. http://www.something-fishy.org/other/hotlines.php Patty
Author danandlea Posted July 12, 2003 Author Posted July 12, 2003 well im in england sorry but all help lines are for USA, i just contemplated hurt, not actually done it, every1 has felt that way before, right? thaks patty, i know that it would be silly but i feel so helpless, thats all. just knowing i cant controll what decisionshe is gonna chose.
Patty Posted July 12, 2003 Posted July 12, 2003 Well if you are thinking of suicide,the only other thing you can do is call 911 or your local emergency number. Patty
Author danandlea Posted July 12, 2003 Author Posted July 12, 2003 Originally posted by danandlea well im in england sorry but all help lines are for USA, i just contemplated hurt, not actually done it, every1 has felt that way before, right? thaks patty, i know that it would be silly but i feel so helpless, thats all. just knowing i cant controll what decisionshe is gonna chose. im not going to, its just a feeling i feel alot of things at the mo just need a few ears to be lent thanks
rockinhomeyj2000 Posted July 12, 2003 Posted July 12, 2003 Maybe you did do something wrong and this is your last chance to back off and find out what it is. You say that she is always appologizing. Maybe she got mad at you for real but unexpressed reasons. Maybe you should back off, figure out what you did wrong(this may take some time) and then by that time if she'll still give you a chance, maybe you two can work through some problems. When people get mad at someone they are close to, it's usually not for the stated reason, but for some unconcious smoldering resentment. The ststed reason is just the excuse. She's probably just as confused as you are. Good luck man. I really feel for you.
Author danandlea Posted July 12, 2003 Author Posted July 12, 2003 cheers mte, it maks sense what you are saying and you must be like the only dude that has made any sense to me. il give her time, she wants to be friends, is that good or bad coz i have been told to cutt off all contact with her, what if she thinks im ignoring her? Confused
Author danandlea Posted July 12, 2003 Author Posted July 12, 2003 not really, no. i feel consumed by our love, wrapped up in my own little world and now she has "gone" it feels soooo lonely and i cant believe she hasnt contacted me for 2 days. shed oesnt seem to care as she has been going out, which i dont mind, but its a real change from ringing her each night to say sweet dreams and argue who loves the other more at the end of the call, its so hard and i dream everynight that she will come bck, but i awake and feel v depresse as reality hits. :-.......(
dreamer Posted July 12, 2003 Posted July 12, 2003 I know the feeling, I'm going through a hard time myself, but I'm trying to hang in there... I know that things will eventually get better...
yes Posted July 12, 2003 Posted July 12, 2003 being stressed doesn't mean she should be nasty to you. what do you mean by "going to someone to relieve stress"?? it's ok if she simply wants to be alone, but taking it out on you shouldn't be tolerated. -yes
Author danandlea Posted July 13, 2003 Author Posted July 13, 2003 i mean that she is a delecate girl and she only opened up to me, i was there for her no matter what the problem was, through thick and thin i wanted her to know that i was i there and would comfort her, i never took any of her stressy mood swings too much to heart but eventually i asked her why she is always tressy with me and she told me that i was there and she felt great after just telling me heer thoughts and sometimes taking it out on me, having the hump with me for noreason and by knowing that she was ok by letting her steam off it made me happy. no matter what the effects it had on me. i learnt to accpet that any grow to love that part of her, knowing that she can come to me for any reason at all. this is what i mean about our love was perfect, we both helped each other whaen we needed each other and both loving each other for what we were the "problem" is that she no longer "loves" me and i cant think at all why she has done this to us, without even suggesting a break or a long chat. the break up basically happened over the phone and i said to her that i wanted to see her face to face and i asked her to think long and hard and look me in the eyes and tell me she no longer loves me and wants to finish it, she said ok and she would do it when i went to see her, the trouble is that day she never told me to my face. does this mean anything???????
rhj2000 Posted July 14, 2003 Posted July 14, 2003 I think your problem is that, like me, you're a romantic. A romantic believes that in a perfect world, a persons first love is their soulmate and that they will marry and live happily ever after. A romantic believes that love is real, and that the other person feels that love as strongly as they do. A romantic believes that fate will bring two people together, because that deep inside the two share the same soul. A romantic believes that the person they love is perfect. A romantic is a gullible fool who refuses to accept the truth and wouldn't have it any other way.
Author danandlea Posted July 14, 2003 Author Posted July 14, 2003 i agree i am romantic, i am not a fool though. she opened up to me today and i believe thsat once we talk properly we can sort it out, i am slowly regaining faith. not hoping too much though dan
Cpunch75 Posted July 14, 2003 Posted July 14, 2003 that's probally the best description I have ever heard about myself and romantics..... "I think your problem is that, like me, you're a romantic. A romantic believes that in a perfect world, a persons first love is their soulmate and that they will marry and live happily ever after. A romantic believes that love is real, and that the other person feels that love as strongly as they do. A romantic believes that fate will bring two people together, because that deep inside the two share the same soul. A romantic believes that the person they love is perfect. A romantic is a gullible fool who refuses to accept the truth and wouldn't have it any other way." punch
Author danandlea Posted July 15, 2003 Author Posted July 15, 2003 i agree too as i said, things will get better agai soon hopefully dan
Author danandlea Posted July 17, 2003 Author Posted July 17, 2003 hey dreamer where you at??? write back please
dreamer Posted July 18, 2003 Posted July 18, 2003 hey dan!! Im sorry I havent gotten a chance to write back sooner! So hows your situation going??? I hope that you are feeling better..... You gotta remember that you gotta stay positive!! Dreamer
Author danandlea Posted July 18, 2003 Author Posted July 18, 2003 yea im trying to stay positive buts its really taking its toll on me. how are you? im meeting her 2moro and am fearing it!! anyway goodnight angod-bless.
dreamer Posted July 18, 2003 Posted July 18, 2003 JUST STAY POSITIVE HON!! DONT DREAD TOMORROW, JUST GO OUT THERE TELL HER WHAT YOU WANNA TELL HER AND JUST TAKE IT FROM THERE... BUT REMEMBER HOPE FOR THE BEST AND EXPECT THE WORSE... LET ME KNOW HOW IT GOES:) GOOD LUCK DREAMER
Author danandlea Posted July 18, 2003 Author Posted July 18, 2003 ok will do, it is kinda funnyhow it seems so hard to meet her after so long together, whats happened?? i just really miss her so much, she is like so special to me, i know that the hasnt treated me right, she cant even meet tot alk so today she will probably not talk again, doh! il post once i have seen her dreamer. dan
Author danandlea Posted July 18, 2003 Author Posted July 18, 2003 not good, she is treating me like crap, she promised to txt me e-mail me or ring me 2night. none have happened, instead she has gone out with her mates, i wlked her to work and it was ok, she seemed really happy to be walking with me, then she says thanx for walking with me and says she will get in contact, i wrote to her saying thanx 4 getting in contact and she wrote back "sorry im out" so for all i care she can contact me whenevershe is ready.
dreamer Posted July 18, 2003 Posted July 18, 2003 DAN, STOP WAITING FOR HER TO CONTACT YOU!!!!!!!! GO OUT AND HAVE FUN!!! THE MORE GROVELING THAT YOU DO, THE LESS SHE WIS GONN ABE INTERESTED... SOMETIMES GIRLS DO THAT... WE DONT REALIZE HOW GOOD WE HAVE IT UNTIL WE LOSE THAT GOOD THING..... SO STOP GROVELING AND GO OUT AND HAVE FUN... MAKE HER SEE THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF MOVING ON!!!! THEN MAYBE SHE'LL REALIZE WHAT SHE HAS LOST!!! GOOD LUCK HON
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