overanalytical Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 my friend since 10th grade and i have been very close the past several years, even through college. (so about 8 years) i'm married to my college sweetheart that she knows and got along with very well...she's with her bf of a few years. we used to make plans to all get together once a month at a meeting point since i'm in ohio and she's in indiana, not a far drive but easier to meet in the middle. anyways, we met about 3 weeks ago to do our monthly thing and me and her had a great time like we always do. my husband and her haven't been getting along the past several months due to the way she is. she's very loud, has to comment on EVERYTHING, annoying (and i can say this cause she is my bestfriend lol.) so my husband is uptight around her but knows he has to go for me. the past time me and him get in a fight because he basically is taking his frustrations out on me. he has done this a couple other times when we are around her, i guess cause he doesn't wnat to hurt her feelings so turns it on me (which yes, we've talked about is not good). she gets mad because i'm her friend and he's doing this to me, so gets mad at him. her bf also gets mad at the way because he got tired of my husband's actions towards her - being short with her and snapping at her. he makes a point to note every single thing that my husband does wrong and basically this has ruined our relationship. i dont' even want to be around him now. if he only knew my husband wasn't like this, only around him. so next, in all this bickering i find out about my best friend's bf...and the things he's told my husband...how he has cheated on my best friend, uses her money for drugs, doesn't intend to find a job and mooch off of her, calls her fat and talks about her behind her back... this isn't fair. my husband yes, is touchy around her because he can't stand her anymore so her bf gets mad, makes nasty comments and basically has ruined our friendship...and my husband doesn't retaliate...but now i know so much that i don't think my best friend needs to be with her bf...but dont' even know if she's my best friend anymore... does this make any sense to anyone?? i'm so frustrated and hurt and scared...i dont' know what to do. my best friend doesn't want to be around my husband due to what she knows/thinks about how he has been acting (which is because of her, but i dont' want to tell her that), and i know as well...but i don't want to be around her bf due to what i know, but she doesn't know.... any advice/ thoughts/ anything????????
reddog63 Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 She is your friend, you see her. Hubby has right to be annoyed. Why do you drag him into it???
Author overanalytical Posted March 19, 2008 Author Posted March 19, 2008 cause him and her bf got along until recently... now i hate her bf from the things that he has done to her, taht she doesn't even know about! and i'm scared to tell her. do i just let it go and let her come to me?? i've emailed her and called but haven't gotten a response yet.
whichwayisup Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 You and your bf spend time alone together. You don't have to involve your husband and her boyfriend. I find it weird though that your H and her 'used' to be closer and get along fine and now they don't. He knows her well enough and has known her for a long time, like you...It makes me wonder if something happened between them???
carhill Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 Yes, there is more to the story IMO. Me thinks he protesteth too much.
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