Miss_Diagnosed Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 I've been dating a wonderful gentleman for the past five months... we have not slept together or done anything sexual, for that matter. We have taken the time to really get to know one another, but neither of us will deny that, damnit, we're horny for one another, in a big way He surprised me last week by asking me if I would be interested in a weekend get-away with him. Of course I said yes! We have planned it, we have a room reservered, the whole nine yards. Here's where the problem lies... I'm freaking flipping out! I'm excited and nervous about our upcoming weekend together... I just want things to go as perfectly as they can go. It's been ages since I've done anything like this... it's been less than a year since my 15 year marriage ended, and romance left the marriage long before I did. I'm rusty in the dating/romance department. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks!
Balthazar Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 I don't know how you can put off sex for 5 months in a relationship, or if you should! Expectations have now built up to disproportionate levels. Kinda reminds me of the 20th date in the 40-year old virgin. On the other hand, just relax, enjoy the weekend, and let things take their natural course. You'll be fine;)
Lyssa Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 Ooh... a weekend get-away! How nice!! Okay so this is the first time romance since your 15 M ended... honey, you have got to get new lingeries - sexy ones!! You should browse through Agent Provocateur!
Lizzie60 Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 I also wonder how you could wait so long.. but anyway.. I agree with Lyssa... sexy lingerie.. get some massage oil.. candles.. wine or champagne... music.. and ...VOILÀ! Enjoy!
carhill Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 OP, do it in stages, over the weekend. The hard part is lowering the mental blocks that have been in place. Bring them down a bit at a time. I'm assuming you've talked about sex (as in what you like) even though you haven't had intercourse yet. Have you been sexual in other ways, like oral, mutual masturbation, etc? If not, and no discussion, I'd start there. IMO, the beginning of sex in an otherwise important friendship/relationship is a beautiful and special thing. Don't rush it. If you've been in sync in your other intimate contact like holding each other and kissing each other, that will flow over. Enjoy the weekend! I'll be painting (not art) with an old female friend and I will think of you
Author Miss_Diagnosed Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 Part of the reason there has been a wait, I wasn't ready for sex after my marriage ended. Between the trial and divorce, it was messy, nasty, and drained me mentally and physically. I needed time to recoup. He has also been out of town the past few months because of his job. He's on the road more than he is here, so that hasn't helped matters much in getting to spend time some good quality, old fashioned, hot and heavy time together. Let me backpeddle a second, we have shared kisses and some gropes lol, so yeah, there has been some physical contact going on but in terms of intercourse, oral sex, mutual masturbation, etc... no. We are both ready... no doubt about it LOL I have appreciated all of your responses and tips... thanks again!
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