Magnatolia Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 Okay so I've started getting into the dance scene - pubs,clubs etc. I check out girls around me but don't have the confidence to do anything about it. I basically wait for a very strong signal that they're interested before I will do anything, but they're usually busy dancing (I notice most of them don't look at anyone). I smile if I catch someones eye. When I'm with a girl - maybe a brand new friend, I cannot be intimate when dancing. I almost have a phobia of touching as well, even if a girl at work brushes my arm or hand, I get this small feeling that I can't explain. I don't pull my arm away or anything. But this is really frustrating especially when I can't make myself dance with a girl. Like the other week I was out with 2 girls and a guy I'd met randomly. The guy was dancing directly with one of the girls and I just couldn't bring myself to attempt that. He didn't know her that well. So, ladies, what should I be doing? Should I go up to a girl and ask how she's doing? If she says good, then what? Do I just start dancing opposite her, move forward? I've only been dancing 2 times so brand new to the whole scene. Although the first time a girl did start grinding against me but I had no idea what I was doing lol. I'm not asking for advice on how to 'pickup' just what I should be doing to have fun with some of the girls on the dancefloor. I don't want to be one of those guys that simply dances up against girls without creating some kind of connection. So what should I start doing? Also what can I do to make myself more comfortable with touching? I think my problem is fear. That she will get annoyed, or complain that I'm being crude. Even friends I rarely hug, got no problem with shaking hands though. Look forward to your advice. Thanks.
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