ShadowU12345 Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 About 5 days ago, I started going out with this girl who I am infatuated with and I know she had liked me for a while, but we just now started talking. Only 1 day after going out, she had to leave out of the state for a family emergency, so for the past few days, I haven't heard anything from her. I've thought about calling her, but I don't want to bother her while shes in the middle of the emergency. I know that she will be there for about 3-5 more days, but the anxiety is killing me to see her again, and now I think I'm going crazy, I'm getting into a very bored/ depressive state of mind at the moment, and I don't know if I can even sleep tonight. Its kinda weird, I know that I can see her as soon as she gets back, and I know that I'm worrying way too much than I should be, but its just bothering me, and I always have the fear of her or any girl at that in losing interest in me. So can someone please help me in my breakdown crisis, it would be much appreciated.
Legend Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 Buddy you gotta chill out. This isn't the last girl you'll ever have a major crush on. You need to learn to control the feelings or women will always have power over you. _____________________ "Freedom just another word for nothing left to lose.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 First of all, don't overanalyze. I need to stress that. Most LShackers on here, myself included, have put ourselves through hell and back because we overethink the behaviour and nature of the other person instead of taking things in stride. Second, do not, I repeat, do not get emotionally attached so early in the stage of dating. It will only lead to your downfall. Stay focused on yourself. You've only been on one date with this girl. First dates are like icebreakers, everybodies on their best behaviour so you have no way of telling what skeletons are hiding in each other's closet. Which is why you should never jump to the conclusion that you can assuage from a first date that she'll be the "one". Let her worry about her emergency, and you worry on your own well being.
Little Shy Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 It sounds as if you guys are both really interested in one another, how did the first date go? It is distressing when you finally make the connection, then one person gets pulled away for a bit by something like an emergency. You may feel it risks interrupting your "flow" on your budding dating relationship. But That's life! I just got done completely freaking out because I had just started dating a guy & then he got sick for a week, and I didn't know if I should call etc. You can read how bad I really freaked out, and how people advised me if you want to follow my thread. Did she tell you the nature of the family emergency? Is someone sick? If it is something that may make her very sad, such as a serious illness or death of a family member, I would send one text. It would make her feel good to see that someone that she likely cares about (or is at least very interested in, it seems) is thinking about her & wishing her well. I would keep it really simple, "Hi! I was just thinking about you & hoping things are going Ok for you, hang in there!" OR something to that effect. I definately wouldn't try & draw it back to your recent date, or you, by saying "I really had fun with you the other night..." or "look forward to seeing you when you get back". I think it is too risky to not text or call at all. What if she really digs you, and thinks, I told him I was having this major stuff go down, and he dosent' even send me a well wishing message? Just my thoughts. Good luck, I'm sure everything will be fine with you two when she returns.
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