youngbuckkk Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 (edited) Advice... Background, got dumped a month ago, got the "space" line so went NC after a little begging and weeping. She told me the breakup was for us to grow and not for other guys and crap like that. Said she honestly hoped we would get back together from this. Fast forward a month later and she seems to be getting involed with someone already, I had been doning the NC even when she texted me just a few days ago. I found out about the guy just now through myspace. Now I am really just tempted to tell her what a heartless POS she is simply to hurt her, I know it seems petty but I just feel so betrayed, so used. I gave this girl my heart and was always faithful to her, always supported her and was always there for her. I know NC is usually the thing to do, and I do want to get over her as fast as possible, but part of me really wants to just let her know how I feel about all of this, since when it all ended I was pretty much trying to talk her up in hopes of her coming back never any mention of anger. What should I do? I know many will just say she is moving on like she is supposed to, I guess I just feel it's really crappy the way she simply changed almost overnight from this sweet loving person into someone I don't know. Edited March 19, 2008 by youngbuckkk
Shindig Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 "Space" may have been a letting you down easy thing. You diserve someone who you can be honest with who will be honest back. Get yourself busy (even if it's difficult). Get out, meet people. Keep your brain occupied and you won't be so torn about her.
LuCidiTy Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 ugh. don't jump to conclusions because of something on myspace. and telling her she's a pos because of it...well i just wouldn't.
Author youngbuckkk Posted March 19, 2008 Author Posted March 19, 2008 (edited) Yea I guess. It's not just that it's how it seemed everything about her has changed. I have been internet stalking so I guess I asked for this, but I still feel like she is pretty crappy for the way things ended. It just seemed like everthing was ok and then boom! I never saw it coming yet she said she was surprised as she did. Is this how most relationships end?? It just seems like she weened herself out emotionally without giving me any hint of what was to come, nor did she try to communicate her feelings and instead just rode it out until she was ready to move on. Just seems totally heartless in my book. And to give me hope telling me she hopes we get back together and that this would make us stronger, it's just the icing on the cake. I will be the bigger person and simply stay away. At least I can say i've leared a whole lot about most women from this. I need to look for red flags to know when I need to start the detachment, and I now know that space generally means its time to move on. Thank you for the responses. This site really has made things alot easier for me and finding it is probably the best thing I got out of all of this as of now. Edited March 19, 2008 by youngbuckkk
Shindig Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 I'll agree with LuC: take the high road. Go NC. Focus on other things. Relationships are tough, ending them is tougher.
LuCidiTy Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 sometimes i think being heartless is the kinder thing in the end. point here being she wasn't heartless when she told you, "She told me the breakup was for us to grow and not for other guys and crap like that. Said she honestly hoped we would get back together from this." that gave you false hope maybe. and now that she appears to have not meant it (she still may have...don't forget that) you get to rekindle the pain and get angry to boot. assuming for a second she didn't mean it, what if she had just said, "I'm not feeling it with you?" would that have made it easier now?
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