out of it Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 I broke up with my fiancee on New Years day 2008 after finding out she was having some fling with her brother in-law. Since then we have kept in touch and been intimate, but I can't get the picture of her with that guy out of my mind. She also seems to call me now mainly when she needs something, clothes, groceries, expensive make up, etc... When she is with me we go to very nice places and when we were living together she had everything. Now that she is just with her 2 daughters and she has to pay for everything she is always on a budget. I know I am an idiot for hanging around, but I really do love her! How do I get her out of my mind and heart for good. ps.... She is a georgeous woman and knows how to use that to her advantange. Thx - G
mark982 Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 out of it. total no contact, you know she's using you so why put up with her crap? don't you wish you had someone to run to whenever you needed $$$. just remember she ho'd on you,move on.
sumdude Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Whoa, wait a sec... a fling with her brother in law? She would do that to her own sister, and you? You don't really want someone like that in your life do you?
whichwayisup Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Her brother in law IS in her family, so chances are they're going to go for another roll in the hay. I can't believe she is banging her OWN sister's husband...WTF! Leave. Get out now. I am sorry to say this but the fact is, you two aren't married yet, were just engaged. Her behaviour, her cheating is SO wrong and SO selfish! Imagine you two 10 years into the marriage and you find out she's STILL cheating on you. I know you're in pain, but end it now and walk away for good...Heal yourself.
Gunny376 Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 EJECT! EJECT! EJECT! If she'll do that to her own sister ~ let alone you? that's all the news you can use!
Author out of it Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 She contacted me Tuesday after I posted my previous message and asked me If I wanted to join her to eat (of course, I paid). During the meal I mentioned to her that she was using me for money and favors, but that was all she wanted me for not a normal relationship, she BLEW up and started cursing me out. She said she could pay for her food, so I got up and went to another table. She tried to get me to sit with her again, but once she saw I was not going to she stormed out. Today, she called me again and apologized. She said that we have grown apart and that I was right to say that we need to go our separate ways. She then asked me to spend this weekend with her and as a farewell to our relationship and afterwards WE will never contact one another again!? I think it's OK!?!?!??? ps.......She said she needed a man like me to take care of her, but not ME. That's nice, huh?!
jmargel Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Don't do the weekend thing. She is just using you more. Next time you talk to her, recommend to her that she should go for counseling for herself and if a year from now she has come clean with her sister, has gone to counseling and turned her life around that 'maybe' you might reconsider pursuing things with her. She really needs to grow up.
Confused9 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 DON'T DO IT! You will just be torturing yourself. Why give her what she wants? I know you might be thinking maybe this will win her back (just guessing here?) but it won't. You are over...let it go. Start moving forward today.
Author out of it Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 I can't believe our love story came to an end? We were perfect for each other, I'm not just saying that everybody said it. I gave her everything physically, financially, emotionally, etc. Oh and her daugther's too! All I wanted to do was please her. All I wanted to do was what she wanted me to. I have NEVER been the way I have been with this woman. In the past I was uncaring, not as affectionate, cold and my ex-girlfirends/wife were devistated when we separated. Why this BITXX? I LOVE/LOVED her. I am starting to really believe that nice guys really do finish last and get treated like crap. I KNOW I HAVE TO LET HER GO ONCE AND FOR ALL. IT;S JUST NOT EASY. She really does not know what she lost in me. I'm not arrogant! THANKS ALL...
Confused9 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Listen, I know it's hard. Trust me. I am going through the same thing. But you need to get throug this. You need to start the process of letting go. She is not going to change. You can't take back what she has done. You are better off. As soon as you start to believe that...even if it's just a little...you will start to feel a tiny bit better. I know you feel like someone just stole your life and you are living a nightmare. I know you don't want to go on and parts of your life if not all seem meaningless but...until you begin picking up the pieces and starting over...it won't get better. Trust me. I wasted months. I wish you strength and comfort during this time.
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