just-jonny Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 hi every one!! im new to this forum, & came in search for this forum because im lonely, confused & if im honest im little scared, & i just dont know where or who to turn to for advice. four & half years ago i meet my partner in a bar that i was working in, & from that moment we meet he change my life for the better, He was the most amazing, adventurous, sexy, caring person i'd ever came across & change my life by showing me that there are people in this world who can love you for you. for a whole six months we had best time of our lifes, just me & him...nothing else matter or seemed important, until news broke that he was moving back home to Benidorm too be close to his family..after a very long heart felt talk he announced he loved me & wanted me to go with him. since i'd no family apart from my nan & nothing keeping me in London i agreed to the move. Leaving my Nan & the few friends i had behind, i made the commitment to Julian & Benidorm & began my new life. Every thing was exciting & fresh, & i believed that i would never regret or have doubt about my new life until now... nearly five years on & the man who swept me off my feet & gave me a new start in life as became a diferent person, every day there a row, or a drama or he'll goes missing for days on ends with out him telling me where he been or what he been doing?? plus through all rows & him walking out on me he also have become heavily addicted to cocaine which leads to extream moodswings that scare the hell out of me, i just feel trapped & lost & dont know whats the best solution is for us If i choose to leave..i have no where to live at the age of 25 & could run the risk of having to leave benidrom while also loosing touch with his family & friends..Im so emotionally confused & hurt with questions like "dose he love me" "why dose he do what he dose" & so on that i just dont know which emotion are real.. my head or my heart... & even though he sometimes tells me he still loves me, & tries fix the issue i just cant figger out whats gone wrong?? so if there is any one who knows what im going through or can share their advice with me about my problem then please feel free Jonny Jonny
xpaperxcutx Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Have you had a heart to heart talk about your concerns over his behaviour? Cocaine addiction is truly a serious situation, and is definitely a contributing factor to his erratic behaviour. Talk with him about his addiction and recommend that he receive therapuetic help or enter rehab. It's emotionally draining to continue the relationship until he fully recognizes that he has a problem. I truly recommend that you give him an ultimatum, to choose you or the drugs. If he loves you enough, he'd be willing to give it up for your sake, but should he chooses not to sober up, then it's in your interest to walk out on him.
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