Nc Is Just So Hard

[iwish]

Why is it so hard?! I made my drunken texts and now i sit here two days later wishing i could contact her...

 

I know i can't, i know that very well.. It's just annoying that i can't even say hello, or how are you doing?... How's New York?.. blah blah..

 

I can't wait until the day arrives that i am finally over her, i hope it's sooner rather than later.. will that day ever come?!..

 

It's just pure agony.. I'm starting to realise now that she actually just doesn't want to know me.. I was good to her, I loved her and i guess she just didn't love me...and that hurts.

 

my memories must be tainted with rose coloured glasses otherwise i shouldn't care so much, why do i care so much?!! the girl dropped me like a piece of rubbish, moved on and by all accounts is doing great..

 

Whereas i'm doing not so great.. I go out most nights, i have new hobbies, i go to the gym.. all of that i would exchange for just one more meal with her, a drink or two.. a kiss..

 

Man, i hate it that i'm still pining for her, i hate it that she doesn't seem to care, it's just not fair!!!

[Ocean-Blue]

Trust me when I say you'll get over this.

 

I can give you examples of people in my life who have moved on and are happy now (but were miserable after their respective breakups...couldn't do anything but obsess about the ex). This will change for you.

 

Methinks her not giving you the time of day is making it worse. You want her to want you and to pine for you...but she is not. This is adding salt to the wound.

 

You have to just accept that this is the way things are and focus on other things. Do not give in to your impuse.

 

Plus, why waste your breath on someone who isn't thinking about you?

 

The day my ex realized I really wasn't coming back was the day he got up and got over it. He is now happy and understands why we were not good for each other.

 

You too will move on from this. You just have to allow yourself to do it. It is all IN YOUR control.

[wvhenson]

I feel for you. Its just a time game I guess. Im going thru the same thing. Last week mine ended. I dated for over a year. She lives with a guy she dated for a while, but isnt happy, he doesnt do anything for her, is boring etc...she wanted away from him so much. We were great tho. No problems, drama,etc...just great. WE talked about us getting a place and getting her out of that place of his. SHe was so unhappy there. He was mean and just a bore. But last week I guess he found her cell record and got all over her for the contact we kept,etc...she called and was like "i cant live this double life...i need time to think,etc..". I think she got scared and all because he would threaten her or kick her out and we didnt have a place yet and she said "it seems like its not going anywhere".

 

Well, Im devasted because we had heated words. I love her with all my heart. I just cant see how it went down that fast. It happened once before and she came back because things were just not good with her guy. It clearly told me she is unhappy. I just wonder if still living with that guy and us not having a place together yet just caused her to need a break or something. She loves me I know. She tells me constantly and even up to the morning that she broke off with me. Its hard isnt it? Its gut wrenching and sickening. I want her tho....she is so good and we are so good together.

[Shindig]

Keep your mind busy. Go to a coffee shop and read a book. You'll be away from the computer, hopefully wrapped up in a good book. If you get restless you might find someone to talk to.

 

Volunteer, another way to meet people (try your YMCA, kids are fun!) and keep busy.

 

I imagine it's only when you're bored, alone with your thoughts, that you ruminate over this. I know I hate socializing when I'm bummed out but force yourself. Just say, "I know I won't regret playing basketball with kids at the YMCA/ reading that book I've been thinking about/ meeting that cool guy/girl at the coffee shop, etc."

 

Good luck.